(Closed) RSVP etiquette

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t think you have to acknowledge that you received the RSVP because you’ve invited them and they responded so they are planning to show up either way. Since they have to send back the RSVP whether or not they are coming, you’d probably want to check with people who didn’t check the box. 

The third question can get a little hairy. If you have the room for the extra people, sometimes it’s not worth the fight of telling them they can’t bring their guest. If you don’t have room or money to pay for the extra person, you should contact the offender and let them know that due to room capacity, or whatever, you can’t accommodate extra guests at this time. 

Post # 4
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

1) Nope.

2) Follow up with them, it’s much safer to ask what they meant than to assume either way. That’s annoying that someone would send back an RSVP like that!

3) How awful! People can be completely rude, inviting people to others’ weddings. It’s a sticky situation, but you’ll need to get in touch with them and politely but firmly say you’re very excited that they’ll be able to attend your wedding, but unfortunately there is only enough room for the people who were invited, and no others.

Post # 5
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was going to write exactly what LittlestBirds wrote. 

As for #3: It depends on the guest. If it is a friend of the family, you could ask your mother to contact them. If it’s a guest on the grooms side, ask your Fiance or Future Mother-In-Law to contact the guest. Don’t be offended if they back out of the wedding after learning they can’t bring their child, brother, friend whoever. you’re not being rude – they are. 

Post # 6
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree.  Don’t be shy about letting people know that you can’t accomodate their random people.  I have an old, dear friend who asked if she can beig TWO extra people, who I have never met, to my wedding.  I had to tell her that she would have to wait a few weeks until I saw how many spaces I had left after invited guests responded yes or no.  Luckily, she understood.  Good luck!

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