MemberWhen did you start receiving RSVPs back? My deadline is next Wednesday (one month from the wedding) and we have only received 5 RSVPs from the 50 invites I sent out. Two of those were because they opened the invites when I was around. I know people usually last minute these types of things…but 5/50 a week out? Is that normal?
MemberThat is definitely not normal. Though today was our deadline and we were still missing about 15% of them. We got alot of verbal responses, but I need people’s meal choices and stuff.
People are stupid.
MemberPs. I would talk to the parents and ask them to get in touch with people and see whats up.
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@candykiss: My mom and dad aren’t really super involved, they think it’s my wedding & my responsibility, they’re just funding it. I told the Fiance he was responsible for calling his friends/family and I’ll do mine. I’m going to give it until the Monday after my RSVP date though. I have noticed the ones I’ve received are from couples that are already married and our older, more mature friends, still so hard for me to believe that people don’t get the whole RSVP. I even self-addressed the envelope! I also have one person who REFUSES to mail the RSVP to me, is insisting on hand delivering it, even if it’s after Wednesday. I already told them if it’s not here it’s not my fault.
MemberSend this e-mail out a few days after the RSVP deadline has passed- works like a charm.
“Hi- Just wanted to check on your RSVP for our wedding on (DATE). We know you easy it is to let these dates get away from you, however we need to give our caterer a final number of guests. If we don’t hear back from you by (DATE), we’ll have to assume that you are unable to attend.”
I agree- WTH is wrong with some people. Don’t waste my stamps!!!
MemberWe were in the same boat as you-a handful of people rsvp’d right away and then we were in the last week before the deadline and still nothing. I think for whatever reason people just like to wait ’til the last minute-it was mostly younger people. We sent a FB message to all the slackers to rsvp and it worked great.
Member@alphagam84: did you do it before the deadline? did you receive any backlash? I was thinking of doing this but I didn’t know how well it would go over.
MemberYou self-addressed the envelope, but did you stamp it?
Member@sportsgal31: No, I figured they could manage to do it themselves, stamps for RSVPs aren’t exactly an extra $25 I wanted to spend out of my limited budget. Not really an excuse for them either if they can’t manage to give me any type of acknowledgement (FB, phone, email, text) they they intend to attend or not.
Member@laurn88: eh, I’d say since you didn’t stamp them that might be part of the reason. I’ve never received an rsvp without a self-addressed, stamped envelope unless they wanted rsvps by phone or email. I’m not saying this excuses it but it might just be one of those little things, ya know?
MemberI do think that’s a big part of the reason you’re not getting responses. We stamped envelopes and offered online RSVP to make responding as easy as possible. We sent our invitations out a week ago today, and we have 8 RSVPs back out of 71.
It does suck that you’re not getting acknowledgments at all though. I think rebwana’s follow-up email will do the trick.
Member@laurn88: Two of the RSVPs i received was because they open the envelopes infront of me….strange.
Now calling these people is going to cost.
How do you do this.
Hi Aunty ZEE
I sent you an invitation, did you get? are coming?
Ok by.
Now Aunty Zee is a long talker, how do you cut the conversation short without been rude
MemberI am shocked by how many of my invited guests just casually mentioned they are coming to our wedding and said they don’t have the RSVP card when I asked them to mail it to me in addition to telling me verbally. I certainly don’t expect anyone to keep our invitation hanging on their fridge for a month but for heavens sake fill out the RSVP card and send it back. I think until you’ve planned a wedding of your own people just don’t get it!
MemberI would guess the stamp thing is a factor. Since most people do a majority of their business online now, people don’t always have stamps on hand and didn’t bother going to the post office. I think a friendly email reminder is the way to go. 🙂
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