(Closed) RSVP Frustration

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SweetMelissa429: I think I would give people a little bit more time to respond if you still have 49 more days before your wedding. I would wait until the 30-day mark before worrying too much about if people responded to the RSVPs or not. That way you still have time to deal with the caterers, etc. I know with my venue, I have until 2 weeks before our wedding to finalize numbers and all that good stuff. And if nothing else, you could have your parents reach out to people if you don’t have time to do it yourself. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wait.

You gave them a date for a reason, if you wanted an earlier date to RSVP by, you would have given it to them

And if they do not RSVP in time, then you and your Fiance divide and conquer by calling them. If they are family friends, aunts etc you could also ask your mom and Mother-In-Law to assist with them, but definately do not use facebook for this.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re almost date twins! Our rsvp deadline is March 21st.

I’m antsy like you haha! We have only got 4 cards back so far and I’m dying to get the rest in so we can finalize details, etc. I’m having surgery next week so I was especially hoping to get as much done as possible before I’m laid up. Oh well, just have to wait a little longer haha.

I must say it’s like Christmas everytime I see a little card in the mailbox hahaha.

 

Post # 8
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Gross, that is brutal! Good luck!

I’m getting my appendix out. πŸ™

Post # 9
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@SweetMelissa429:  I feel your pain girl! Our deadline was yesterday. As of Monday the 25th we were missing 63 RSVPs. I was so annoyed. But I split the list to my mom’s side, my grandma, and my FMIL’s fam (most were HIS family from out of state who I have never even met) and then the few I could touch base with through email or fb messages I sent a very polite “Hey hope you are doing well. We noticed we haven’t received your RSVP yet. If you could please send it by Fri that would be great THanks”. By yesterday I had gotten the No response list down to 11 and I am just considering those people a NO at this point since they didn’t respond to anything. If they show up, there will be a table for them in the back without guest cards LOL

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@SweetMelissa429:  Its extremely frustrating for sure. I wanted to do the table seating chart and the gurst cards this weekend because aside from making the centerpieces, which we are doing today, those are the last tasks left. I am interviewing for a new position and have to put together a presentation this week, interview next Sat, and may find out a week before the wedding I have a new job as of next school year. So much goin on:)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SweetMelissa429:  although I’m not a date twin, I can relate to the excitement. We did mail RSVPs so everyday I check the mailbox. Sure, they’ve only been out a week, and so far we’ve only gotten 10 back, but I’m excited to know who’s coming! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say eventually you will need to reach out individually instead of FB-ing it.  But I say divide and conquer and enlist of the help of family and even your BM’s πŸ™‚

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