Post # 1
How long did you all wait before you started to track down those nefarious RSVP stragglers who never sent their answers back? I gave them a week, but now all bets are off! Just wondering what the average is…
Post # 3
I plan on giving them 3 or 4 days. Figuring for those who mailed theirs on the due date and having time for them to arrive in the mail.
Post # 4
Traditionally, wedding invitations are to be sent 4-6 weeks before the wedding. I think this is normal because people can’t really think farther out than about 4 weeks. I’d say give them until your 4-week out point unless you REALLY need to know for the caterer or something prior to that. But if you call the non-responders more than 4 weeks out, I guarantee they will stay under their rock regardless of your calls/texts/emails/facespaces. They will only crawl out if the response is Yes and not before at the most 4 weeks prior.
Post # 5
Yeah my caterer wants numbers 4 weeks out (which I think is crazy, but what can you do, you know?). A couple other people in our social circle got married recently, and told me that two people in particular were really difficult to track down, wouldn’t respond to emails or voicemails, stuff like that. So I don’t feel too bad getting an early jump on these two, since I know it will take several attempts to actually get an answer out of them anyway.
Post # 6
Mine are due today. We’re giving them until after the mail comes tomorrow (so if it is a day late they don’t get a phone call) and then the calls will start on Saturday evening and Sunday. I need to know numbers!
Post # 7
I think it depends on how many no replies I get and how many calls I have to make. My RSVP date is a Thursday. I plan to call that following Monday….
Post # 8
We’re going to start calling after about a week or so.
Post # 9
I have to give a headcount by August 7th, so I gave people until July 31st. I will probably start calling right away since there is only a week between the RSVP deadline and the date in which I need to provide a headcount to the venue.
Post # 10
@greenleafmountain: I think it depends on when your caterers need the numbers by and how close your RSVP date is to that. In your case, your caterer needs numbers right away, so I would give it a day or two and then start calling. If you had a bit more time before you needed final numbers, I would say allowing up to a week would be more than reasonable (which is what I voted for).
Post # 11
My RSVP deadline is 7/1, and I have to give the caterer our guest count on 7/17. I’ll give them a week beyond the deadline to respond, but then I’ve ABSOLUTELY GOTTA KNOW!
Post # 12
My RSVP’s are due back 5 days before the hotel releases our block, so my Out of Town guests will get a phone call the day after the deadline to make sure they can make their reservations if they actually plan on coming. For everyone else, I guess I’ll give them a week.
Post # 13
@VagabondGurl: Same here. We’re calling our RSVPS 4 days after the deadline, which means we’ll be calling on a Sunday. Our RSVP deadline is 7/7, and our final head count is due on 7/22. We’ll be calling people on 7/11.