(Closed) RSVP grace period

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How long before you contacted the late rsvp-ers?
    Immediately after the date passed : (9 votes)
    32 %
    After a week : (17 votes)
    61 %
    After 2 weeks : (1 votes)
    4 %
    After 3+ weeks : (0 votes)
    I never contacted them at all : (1 votes)
    4 %
    other? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    962 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I plan on giving them 3 or 4 days.  Figuring for those who mailed theirs on the due date and having time for them to arrive in the mail.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Traditionally, wedding invitations are to be sent 4-6 weeks before the wedding. I think this is normal because people can’t really think farther out than about 4 weeks. I’d say give them until your 4-week out point unless you REALLY need to know for the caterer or something prior to that. But if you call the non-responders more than 4 weeks out, I guarantee they will stay under their rock regardless of your calls/texts/emails/facespaces. They will only crawl out if the response is Yes and not before at the most 4 weeks prior.

    Post # 6
    Member
    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Mine are due today.  We’re giving them until after the mail comes tomorrow (so if it is a day late they don’t get a phone call) and then the calls will start on Saturday evening and Sunday.  I need to know numbers!

    Post # 7
    Member
    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think it depends on how many no replies I get and how many calls I have to make.  My RSVP date is a Thursday.  I plan to call that following Monday….

    Post # 8
    Member
    1732 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We’re going to start calling after about a week or so. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    5671 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have to give a headcount by August 7th, so I gave people until July 31st. I will probably start calling right away since there is only a week between the RSVP deadline and the date in which I need to provide a headcount to the venue.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @greenleafmountain:  I think it depends on when your caterers need the numbers by and how close your RSVP date is to that.  In your case, your caterer needs numbers right away, so I would give it a day or two and then start calling.  If you had a bit more time before you needed final numbers, I would say allowing up to a week would be more than reasonable (which is what I voted for). 

    Post # 11
    Member
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My RSVP deadline is 7/1, and I have to give the caterer our guest count on 7/17. I’ll give them a week beyond the deadline to respond, but then I’ve ABSOLUTELY GOTTA KNOW!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My RSVP’s are due back 5 days before the hotel releases our block, so my OOT guests will get a phone call the day after the deadline to make sure they can make their reservations if they actually plan on coming.  For everyone else, I guess I’ll give them a week.

    Post # 13
    Member
    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @VagabondGurl: Same here. We’re calling our RSVPS 4 days after the deadline, which means we’ll be calling on a Sunday. Our RSVP deadline is 7/7, and our final head count is due on 7/22. We’ll be calling people on 7/11.

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