- 4 years ago
We are a little more than a week from our RSVP deadline – and still waiting on 100 RSVPs (our of 260 guests invited) — including many of the bridal party. Anyone else having this issue? Should we wait until after the deadline passes to gently remind people? It’s hard not to take offense to the fact that some of my own bridesmaids haven’t RSVPed – do they know they have to? I am trying so hard not to be a bridezilla here, but it feels like people don’t think the day is important.. and to us, it very much is. And those we invited are really important to us, as we had to massively cut the guest list.
On that note, how did you Bees react to some people who RSVPed no – or just generally didn’t respond at all – and there were people you considered to be really close friends? For example, I have a new friend (well, we’ve been good friends for about a year and a half) and she invited my fiance and I to her wedding, which we traveled to, stayed at a hotel, the whole nine. She even invited me to her wedding shower – again, I went, traveled, the gift, etc. Now, she won’t answer me on whether she is coming to my wedding or not. Now I know it may be bad form to ask someone if they are coming before the deadline, but I was telling her that I was upset another friend who I had considered close had told me she wasn’t able to come for financial reasons (after she asked for a plus one, a girl who’s a friend, which I thought was weird and immature, and I said no. But that’s another, albeit rude, story.) This same friend who won’t answer my question on whether she will attend also bailed on my bachelorette party because the night of the party experienced some sort of personal crisis – ie found out she was pregnant – and didn’t even tell me until the next day – VIA TEXT. Is this girl just not a friend and I should forget her? It’s still so hurtful!
Sorry this is turning into a rant…Anyone else having the opposite issue – people asking to bring plus ones when they didn’t get one? We didnt have inner envelopes, so that may have contributed to the confusion, but the names were very clearly written on the outer envelope as to who was invited. I have had no less than 5 people ask if they are bring someone who wasn’t invited in the first place – boyfriends, the aforementioned girl friend, kids. I want all our guests to be comfortable, but with our guest list (260 people) we just weren’t able to give plus ones – especially for friends. We also didn’t invite kids. Some of our family didn’t even get plus ones.
Planning a wedding is just to stressful to begin with. You really want everything to be perfect and you want all your loved ones and friends there and I guess there is bound to be some disappointment. I guess I just assumed there was a level of baseline ettiquette? AM I BEING A BRIDEZILLA?