RSVP Help!

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Give people until the deadline and a few extra days or up to a week if possible. Then, take the list of those who haven’t responded, divide it among yourself, your Fiance and, if they’re involved in the wedding planning and know some of the guests better than you do, your parents, and start contacting people for a firm decision.

Post # 3
2312 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Agree with PP, you’ll have a lot come in at the last minute, so just take a deep breath and wait until a couple of days after the deadline and then follow up with them. 

Post # 4
13 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019

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megm1099 :  My RSVP deadline was at the beginning of May, and during the following week after that, I had quite a number of follow ups to make. I did as the others commented, I divided up the list and just reached out to people. 

Post # 5
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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megm1099 :  Deep breathing. Lots of people will wait until the RSVP deadlien to RSVP. And if you are doing mailed invitations – many people will drop the RSVP in the mail ON your deadline day – which means you wont recieve it until a few days later.

Just keep calm, focus on other things you can handle and wait a few days. Wait until the weekend after your deadline and then start your follow up phone calls.

Don’t worry! You got this!

Post # 6
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Breathe easy bee! Many of our guests didn’t RSVP until right up to the deadline and some we still had to track down . In the end, some guests will cancel last minute (like days before the wedding), some will not come even if they say they will, and some might come even after saying they aren’t. My point is, stay calm and know that you have done your best and it will all be okay and likely won’t matter to you the day of! 

Post # 7
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m in the same boat. At first I was offended because we took the time to invite each person to our wedding and when we didn’t receive RSVPs by the due date we reached out to each person to make sure they got our invite and kindly reminded them to RSVP. Well we are still missing many RSVPs 3 weeks out! It’s inconsiderate, but it is what it is so I’m just trying to focus on other missing details (like the tailor who went MIA with my dress!!!) After looking through this site, I see that people not sending RSVPs is pretty typical unfortunately. 

Post # 9
30393 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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megm1099 :  Make sure the language you use when you contact them is assertive. There is no point in telling them, or leaving a message, that you need their rsvp. They already know that and chose not to respond. Attach a consequence to their continued failure to respond.

“Hi there, we are contacting you because we haven’t received your rsvp and our caterer needs final numbers. If we don’t hear from you in the next 24 hours, we will have to assume you are unable to attend and will miss you at the wedding.”


Post # 10
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

Girl, I understand the frustration, especially with that many people. I’m waiting on RSVPs now but I just sent invitations a few days ago so there’s still plenty of time.

You know your family better than anyone else on here, do you expect most of them to come? My frustration is that I know many of my relatives won’t be able to come (it’s a quasi-destination wedding for them) but even though they know they won’t be able to attend, they probably will wait until the last minute to respond ‘no’ which prevents other people on our friends list from getting invited.

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