(Closed) RSVP Horror Stories

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@iammcdibble:  ha ha ha too funny……

I haven’t even sent out the invites since my wedding is not for over a year and my Future Sister-In-Law wanted to invite HER Mother-In-Law so she can watch her kids at the wedding….yeah that was squashed…..

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I actually have … NONE! ๐Ÿ™‚  However, I am very “old school” and used inner envelopes and full, formal names, and I didn’t have one, single person attempt to bring an extra, uninvited guest. 

Post # 5
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986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not so much RSVP but odd requests.  People I don’t even know.   My sister’s friend and her husband asked so many times, that I finally told my sister, go ahead get their address.  Anyone that wants to come to my wedding that bad, is welcome.   I hardly know this girl at all except by name.

 

Post # 6
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Fiance’s friend was the first person to RSVP via taking a photo of the RSVP card and sending it via email……..I guess it is not a horror story but I was really mad to not just get the card in the mail. (he did eventually send it via mail after I told fiance to get after him to send it)

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

oh mylanta @Brielle I am SO jealous! Did you only invite 4 people?? Because thats the only I could imagine my RSVP’s coming on so flawlessly.

I’ll spice up the discussion board for you…

1. We cut a bunch of FH’s distantly related relatives off the list. My family for the most part is pretty close-I have two great aunts that come to just about every family function. His side however-was full of grandparents’ cousins, 2nd a 3rd cousins (of his parents!) and people who I don’t even know how they are related and frankly I don’t think my FH could tell me either. One such relative informed his grandmother about 3 weeks ago (6 weeks before the big day) that they had booked their hotel room and hadn’t gotten in invitation yet. Why that was my problem I don’t know…but guess who got invitations….alllll those relatives. I was tired of arguing about it.

2. The only children we invited were those of our family members. I followed the envelope rule, didn’t add “and family” or anything like that…just wrote two names on people who weren’t family. 2 former co-workers both RSVP’d that they were bringing their children (they each had one). When I kindly explained via fb message that we had to limit the reception to children of family only, its all we have room for, etc. One replied 2 weeks later: Well would she put the building over capacity? Cuz otherwise she won’t take up much room and can sit on my lap” …umm really?? yes let me just go tell the other 12 families I’ve told the same thing to that I changed my mind and it just so happens that all of a sudden I can afford to feed 35 extra children. And while I’m at it I’ll just scrounge up 4 more tables, 40 more chairs, and rush deliver more decorations.

3. One woman from my FH’s church responded “2 + ‘Suzie and Jason’ ” ….”Suzie” is her daughter and “Jason” is Suzie’s husband. Who are grown adults and actually received their own invitation, but apparently this woman felt the need to make sure they were invited just in case.

4. My aunt replied with “5” on her RSVP-Her, my uncle, and their 3 kids. However, I knew my cousin is a bridesmaid in another wedding that same weekend…so I texted her to make sure, she said “yeah she is but “Matt” was wondering if he could bring “Ashley” (his gf)…I said hmm I’ll get back to you………..ended up telling her yes even though a. she wasn’t listed on the envelope and b. she was totally going to just try to sneak her in there behind my back instead of just asking me about it!

5. My parents neighbors are really good friends of our family and their little boy is my ringbearer. Ringbearer’s auntie is like 50, single, and likes to go to whatever wedding she can basically to scope out men. I hardly ever see or talk to her, and have seen her in church like 5 times in the past 3 years. She lives with her parents and apparently threw a FIT when her parents were invited to the wedding and she wasn’t…..my mom called her out on it and the next thing I knew she blocked me on facebook. It was kind of a relief…didn’t think my wedding was that big a deal to people.

Those are the most ridiculous I have aside from all the families that are trying to bring kids…I just want to say listen, this is not a church potluck. My wedding’s at 11:30 AM and your children are going to be hungry during the ceremony and ready for naptime at the reception…just leave them home dang it!

If that isn’t entertaining enough you can come watch me rip my hair out one strand at a time lol ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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1306 posts
Bumble bee

I think my most entertaining story was this:  On the response card, I chose to write out EXACTLY who was invited (vs. leaving the M________ line blank).  We invited DH’s cousin as “Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe,” since his cousin had been in a long-term relationship with said woman. 

Underneath this, we had “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor, __ of 2 will attend.”  These people not only sent their RSVP in AFTER the deadline, but they wrote in SIX.  Yes, 6.  So, 6 of 2 will attend??  Who the F do you think you’re bringing!?  I made Darling Husband call them ASAP and clarify that we were at capacity and that only he and his gf could come.  They wanted to bring some random friends (people we’ve never even met/heard of) to “make it fun.”  Get the F over yourself.  Jerks!!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Brielle:  You have much more respectful guests than most of us.  Unfortunately, using full names (no “and family”) did not prevent the following situation:

My dad’s cousin rsvp for 3 after the deadline via email telling me that he, [his wife’s name] and Robert were attending.  I had invited his dad Robert so I didn’t think anything of it at the time and changed his dad’s reply to yes, until I talked to my parents a day or two later…and learned Robert is also the name of their 14 year old son.  You can tell how well I know these second cousins to not know they had kids or their names…  So I had to reach out to explain that Robert the son was not invited.  Fortunately, they accepted it and were understanding.

The best part?  My dad didn’t want to call him to talk over the phone about the issue.  If you don’t know them well enough to call them over this, then why did you insist on inviting them?  After showing my parents a draft of the seating chart, they suggested I move them to their table, because my sister hardly knew them, having met them only once at a funeral and likely didn’t even talk to them.  I know them just as well – or rather little – as my older sister…so again, why did you insist on inviting them?

Post # 10
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Brielle:  Hope I get this lucky.

Post # 11
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@doxielove:  Excuse me while I pick up my jaw off the floor. 

Now that I have it, WOW. I’m bad at math but I realize trying to give 2 chairs to 6 people is impossible. Boo! ๐Ÿ™ 

 

@iammcdibble:  I’m glad I’m not the only one who wants to read this stuff! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 12
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55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@doxielove:  that is CRAZINESS!! I would so unleash bridezilla and let them know that the 6 of them can sit on each other’s laps or if their friends are that much fun then don’t come to the wedding and go hang out with them instead.

okay I would never do that but thats totally what I would want to yell at them.

Post # 13
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

1. An old college friend practically begged to be invited. I did invite her and then never received her RSVP. After emailing/ facebooking etc.. she RSVP’d Yes. Then never showed!

2. I also had 4 other no shows (2 of them offered no explanation)

3. An invited couple mailed in their RSVP that they wrote in MAYBE! on. Darling Husband called them and they begged us to hold a spot for them. 1 week before the wedding, they said they couldn’t make it. We had of course already paid for them (food, chair rental, cake etc..)

4. This is the worst. My estranged Mother-In-Law RSVP’d yes for herself and her husband and then once we were already in Savannah (destination wedding) she announced to DH’s sister (not us) that she was also bringing her 10 year old step grandson whether we liked it or not. We had to scramble to accomodate this child at our child free wedding and rehearsal dinner. She never thanked us for making such accomodations and didn’t even give us a card or gift or anything.

Post # 15
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Regina Phalange:  Yeah. I can not believe they actually mailed in the card like that! They wrote maybe on it with no explanation!!!!

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