Post # 1
I received my dad’s RSVP back in the mail today. First, it was the final confirmation that no, he’s not coming to the reception. He has ill feelings toward me about him not walking me down the aisle and told me that he thinks he’s only invited out of courtesy. So he’s making a four hour drive to go to a ceremony and I guess have a weekend with whatever friend he brings.
Also, we put a line saying “___ out of ____ guests invited are attending” and filled in the second blank as to how many people were invited. I had invited just him since he wasn’t coming to the reception and I thought he could sit through a 20 minute ceremony and some pictures by himself. He scratched out the “1” that I put in the blank and wrote in a 2. I have no idea who this other person is. I’m going to let it go since it’s just the ceremony (hopefully they have a chair but if not I guess they’ll stand). My fiance though is worried about the second person being a date. Him and my mom have a very rocky relationship right now since their divorce and we don’t want it to cause rifts but nothing we can really do about that. I personally think it’s one of his friends though.
I just thought I’d share. I never expected someone to cross out my number and write in a new one. That kind of defeats the point of the numbers.
Post # 3
Has anyone else written in how many people were invited and had someone cross out the number and use what number they wanted?
Post # 4
I’m sorry about the situation with your Dad, that’s really sad.
As for the RSVP cards, we did the same thing and had a couple people change it actually! One did call my Mom and ask if it was ok (not that my Mom set the guest list, so really people?), but the other scratched it out and wrote in 4 instead of 2. We had a name line too, so luckily they wrote in the names for me.
Post # 5
I’m confused. He is NOT coming to the reception but the ceremony? Did you have to RSVP for the ceremony as well? In either case, I would call and ask why he altered the invite. Then explain that this is your day and you want it to be pleasant and peaceful.
The situation with your dad is sad. I’m sorry. My dad is not walking me down the aisle and we don’t have a very good relationship. I have not heard from him in over 6 months. So I am seriously considering not even inviting him. He would definitely try to do something to piss me or my mother off. Plus I won’t see him after the wedding anyway.
Post # 6
It wasn’t that there was an RSVP for the ceremony. He actually wasn’t going to return it at all because he didn’t know how to write it and he didn’t think he needed to if he wasn’t coming to the reception (I mean, you still RSVP if you aren’t coming). So he wrote that he was coming but didn’t fill out the reception part.
Also, I’ve known for a while he wasn’t coming to the reception. He told me if it was any further away he wouldn’t even be at the ceremony. I’m just confused as to why he feels it’s perfectly fine to add people. We’ll have enough chairs, I just thought it was weird to feel like you can just add random people. I do intend to ask who it is though since they weren’t invited and I’d like to prepare in case there may be drama.