(Closed) RSVP Meal Choice Question

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
181 posts
Blushing bee

Yikes! How close are you to the couple? If you’re fairly close, it shouldn’t be a problem to call them maybe? Possibly let them know that you don’t need them to make special accommodations (to be polite) but that you aren’t able to eat either and you don’t want them to waste their money…

They will probably get the hint and make sure that there is SOMETHING for you to eat.

I’m vegetarian, too and social events are always a pain in the ass. I end up eating two carrots and a bowl of air.

Post # 4
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@moriah:  I’ve been to a wedding too, where the only options was chicken or beef. On my table there was a young lady who politely before dinner asked the server if he can change hers, vegeterian dish, he said sure, was no problem. I’m sure bride and groom didn’t know. and servers want to make people happy so Im sure it won’t be a problem when you request it.


Post # 5
840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@moriah:  I’d either call them or just write it on the back of the RSVP card. Certainly you’re not the only vegetarian attending their wedding. It was pretty strange of them to not include a veg option. This is why we put “please advise us of any dietary concerns” and a line rather than meal options.

Post # 6
2650 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@moriah:  I am sure the bride and groom have no problem accomodating dietary needs. I would just give them a call and let them know, then send in the RSVP card with a note of your dish option. 

Post # 9
920 posts
Busy bee

Sorry to veer off topic, but can I just ask for clarification on the term ‘entrée’ – in the US, is an entrée the same as a main?  Where I live you’d expect something like a shrimp cocktail for an entrée (something small and reasonably inexpensive), and then prime rib/chicken/fish/pork belly/etc. would be the main, however I often see bees talking about putting entrée choices on the invitation, and these choices always seem fairly substantial. I’m wondering if there’s another, even more substantial savoury course served after the prime rib entrée, or if the terms ‘entrée’ and ‘main’ are just used interchangeably?  Sorry if this seems like a stupid question, it’s just something that’s been baffling me for some time!

Post # 11
920 posts
Busy bee

@moriah:  Ah, okay. Thanks for that. So in terms of courses would dessert directly follow your entrée, or is there another course of some sort in between?

Post # 12
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@JulietFoxtrot:  You can sometimes have an intermezzo between the entree and the dessert to cleanse the palette, but yes, dessert follows the entree.

Post # 14
2281 posts
Buzzing bee

I would add an extra line under the options stating you’ll need a vegetarian meal. I don’t think thats an outrangeous request to make. Maybe check with your SO’s Dad beforehand though if that makes you feel more comfortable. 

Post # 15
7999 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@JulietFoxtrot:  Yes… for me then an entree is a starter, not a main. An appetiser is something which is served before the meal, with drinks.

@moriah:  I would call and ask them. It’s not so unusual to be a vegetarian, and including a veggie option should be par for the course, especially as people with food allergies or who keep kosher or halal can usually eat veggie, so you can kill multiple birds with one stone by having a veggie option. You’re not being unreasonable at all.

Post # 16
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would just ask if there was a vegetarian option. It’s not a rude question as long as you are polite when you ask. 

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