Post # 1
So, my sister is getting married in a week (Yay!) and asked if I would handle tracking the RSVP’s and getting the final headcount etc.
Okay so there was this couple who gave me a headache for 2 weeks straight about not being able to bring their 2 kids to the wedding. The husband is a close friend of my sisters so I checked with her to make sure she wanted to stick to the ‘no kids policy” before telling them no. After back and forth emails for 2 weeks and me constantly saying, “No, ___ this is an adult only wedding. There will be no children there at all, not even in the wedding party”.
The day before I was to give the final headcount to my sister, I checked her website and sure enough they declined. The following day the wife emails me saying “Well, husband and I thought about it and I GUESS we will come to the reception for a few hours but we can’t make the ceremony, this is what we want for our meals. Thanks.”
My sister has already turned in her final headcount and gave me complete control over this situation and doesn’t want to be bothered by any of it so………
Sigh………….How would you handle this?
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Post # 2
If the husband is very close to your sister then I’d suck it up and call the caterer and add two more ppl. You’ll do this like 5 times in the next few days anyway.
Post # 3
I would call the caterer and see if they can adjust. If not, tell them you’re sorry but you already had to submit the finals numbers to your vendors.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Can you actually change the number of guests without being penalized by the catering company?
Post # 5
I’d go with a vote of tell your sister to handle this. It’s not your wedding and these are their pain in the ass friends so she needs to woman up and call the caterer herself and if they can’t be added then SHE needs to tell them, not you, it’s not your place.
Post # 6
MilkCookies81: if the husband is a very close friend to your sister and she want them to be there I say call them add 2 more people they still have time for adjustment the wedding is 2 weeks away
Post # 7
I think people like that are freaking ridiculous and considering they’re basically coming for food and to say hi but can’t even bother to make the ceremony I’d be like sorry, numbers are in, kiss my ass.
But really you should ask your sister what she wants.
Post # 8
MsJ2theZ: Haaaaaaa!! This is what I was thinking! But its not my wedding so I don’t feel comfortable making that call.
Had I known I would have to make these types of decisions I would have never agreed to do this Lol
Thanks for the advice ladies!