Post # 1
So my invitations have gone out. I made the RSVP process very straightforward. Simply check a box on the RSVP postcard and send it off in the mail. Easy, right? Well here we are, a week after our deadline with a list of a dozen or so people who will receive that uncomfortable, “are you coming?” phone call.
I’m getting pretty stressed at this point because the wedding is less than 30 days away and we need to start on the table assignments ASAP. So I ask my Fiance to call one of his good friends to see if he and his family care coming. Here’s his official response.
“I am 75% positive I will be there and 10% positive my two kids and wife will come with me.”
Whaaaaaat?!!! I marked him down as a 1. I’m throwing him a bone with the 75% bs.
Anyone else have RSVP horror stories to share out there?! I’d love to hear them.
Post # 3
Can you simply tell him you need to know the final count in order to submit it to the caterer and to do the place cards? I would tell him!
I had somebody tell me that they would “Probably” make it to our wedding. I simply said I needed to know either way by a certain date to tell our caterer and pay the final balance. Good luck!! And early congrats on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 4
Oh gosh. That’s terrible. I had one guest say they were coming for sure and did a no-show…. name card on the table and everything…. O.o
I had people tell me offhandedly they ‘weren’t sure’ and never replied to me as to clarify which way they were leaning before the wedding (4ish emails and phone calls later I had no idea)
I had one couple tell me, no lying here… that they ‘found your invite under a pile of crap. we can’t make it’…. no explanation or anything. At least they RSVP’d… albeit rudely.
lol. It’s funny now but I look back and realize why in the world I thought I’d get a polite or even timely response. Manners these days seem forgotten! I wish you the best of luck but know that no matter how right you are or how many times you follow up, there will always be THOSE people on the guest list. :/
Post # 5
Oh my goodness! What’s the hold-up? People must know it is horrible for you to have to phone awkwardly.
Post # 6
I’m in Chicago, too!
I invited 78 people are received 29 RSVPs back. SOO annoyed. People think that the world revolves around them! I gave them LOTS of time to respond, too. What really kills me is that so many people have called me to tell me how THRILLED they are that I am having my wedding in Florida and how they can’t wait to come, etc. etc. and now they’re not coming. It’s like, don’t tell me that you’re coming and act so excited about the trip, etc. and then back out. One person begged me to have it in Key Largo because she loves it so much. Now she’s not coming. I almost went through the roof.
I feel you! I would have ripped the 75% person’s head off. I have not been a bridezilla for the last 11 months, but now that we’re rounding 3rd base, more and more, I am annoyed by people’s indecisiveness and antics!! You should tell him that he and his kids are no longer welcome. LOL.
Post # 7
Because of thread like this on weddingbee, I am terrified of collecting RSVP’s when I send out my invites!!!!!
Post # 8
Ugh, I know how you feel. I set the RSVP date to a month and a half before the wedding (April 15th for a June 2 wedding) so that I would have more leeway in the whole “yelling at people for RSVPs” department. 😉 I still have a third of the people who haven’t gotten back to me one way or another.
Post # 9
I’m not convinced that giving people MORE time for rsvps helps, since I believe that if they think they have plenty of time, they set it aside and forget about it. But my invites are all stamped and ready, and I’m going ahead and mailing them. I feel a little like when I’m about to send a super-important email, like submitting a conference proposal, and I hover over the “send” button, trying to gin up the nerve to click.
I have every confidence that I’ll be back on this thread soon, with horror stories. This part is one of my biggest fears (I hate, hate, hate calling people to chase them down for things).
Post # 10
Seriously…how hard is it to write you name, check a box and then drop a pre-paid envelope in the mail? Yikes, people!
Post # 11
I won’t deny it though, I accidentally forgot to put stamps on the RSVP cards! :-O Oops.. oh well, it’s 45 cents.
Post # 12
I, too am stressing about these RSVPs. 1/3 of the RSVPs are still pending. So frustrating. Isn’t a no brainer???? Fill out the card and slip it in the stamped envelope provided for you. Also I’m freaking out about these “add ons.” Really people if your name is the ONLY name on the invitation, how can you RSVP that you are bringing 2 or 3 guests? It really makes it difficult to know how much food to order. Also, I am afraid we may be over the limit for the venue. However, one consolation, I realize that some that RSVPed “yes” may be “no shows.”
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
People are a) rude and b) busy and some are c) dumb about wedding etiquette