(Closed) RSVP “No” – Hurt because of lack of explanation

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Try not to take it personally. I don’t think that people really think of an RSVP as a mode of communication really. At least I didn’t until I got engaged. I’ve never written anything other than checking the appropriate boxes. Now that I’m engaged I feel kind of badly about those that I RSVP’s no to with no explanation… but it was in no way malicious. 

Post # 4
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had the same thing happen to me recently and I made a post about it.  A lot of people pointed out that I was probably just being hyper-sensitive and most people don’t write anything on the RSVP when they decline anyway.  However, like your situation, this friend had commented before that he was excited for our wedding, so I thought there was a good chance he would come even though he would have to come from out of town.  He sent in the RSVP with a decline and no note, and I was a little bothered by it.  I’m sorry about how you feel – I know it kinda sucks.

Post # 5
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I totally know how you feel – this came up for us too.  I would definitely not take it personally, and just assume they didn’t think to write anything on the card.  You’ll have a great time with all the people who WILL make the effort to come out!

Post # 6
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

When we were choosing our venue, the venue we ultimately chose had two dates left that could work.  Aug 28th, or July 9th.  Fiance has an uncle that talked to his parents that he really wanted to come, but had to go back to university teaching prior to the 28th, so he would love it if we could book earlier in the summer.  So, we took the July 9th date (a Friday, in the middle of my absolute peak allergy season) so he could come, because FI’s family lives across the country, so we really wanted those who were willing to make the trip to be able to do so.

Guess what I get in the mail the other day…  that’s right, a “no” RSVP with no further explanation. 

So frustrating!


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