Post # 1
Clearly stated to be an adult reception, but someone RSVPd ‘and family’
It’s just 1 couple with a baby; so I’m led to believe that they plan on bringing the baby.
How do I approach this? I would consider babies being in the kid category, except I know it’s different with nursing babies… but the last thing I want is a crying baby during my ceremony. I would honestly rather have them just bring the baby to the party and not the ceremony…but another part of me feels that the invite was clearly addressed to include no kids or babies (like everyone elses invites who are following etiquette). How would you deal with this? I have plenty of other guests with babies who will not be bringing them.
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Post # 4
I’d just call up and say I’m sorry no kids, unfortunately that means little Suzie wouldn’t be allowed to come. Then she’ll make some excuse, and I’d say I totally understand if you can’t make it but the wedding is going to be child/ infant free- I hope you can find a sitter/ make a portion of the wedding at least but I understand if you cannot.
End of story.
Post # 5
There’s always 1 isn’t there?
Id just call up the offending couple or email and say “I got your RSVP, and I’m so happy you (and spouse) will be able to attend the wedding. I noticed that you wrote in your RSVP “and family” and I’m really sorry if there was any confusion, but we are having an adults only reception, so children can’t be accommodated. If you need, I can try and help you find a babysitter for (child) for the night of the wedding. Or if you decide that you can’t find anyone to watch him (her) and you need to change your RSVP, let me know before X date.”
Post # 6
And if you really don’t mind the baby at the reception, mention that. But only if you are REALLY okay with it. Baby is probably still nursing or something.
Post # 7
@phillybride61513: I’m glad it worked out in your favor!
@vmec: I know I need to be more bold– I mean, I get it, you just had a baby and you want to share it with the entire family… but I don’t want to bend the rule for 1 person. ANd I’m not close with this individual at all…making it easier that they might not come, but also more awkward to call since we don’t really talk in the first place.
Thanks for the advice bees
Post # 8
The “and family” part is worrisome. That could mean any number of people. Call them up and tell them you need to clarify the guests who will be attending and go from there.
If you can’t/ don’t want to include their baby, maybe offer up a referral for a babysitter for the ceremony ( if you are okay with baby attending the reception)?
Post # 9
@tampalove35: We have a kid free wedding, but we’re making the exception for 2 babies that are both under 1 year and traveling from out of state. I personally don’t care about crying children, but my wedding is simply not child appropriate (since the babies can’t read, it’s not a big deal). Maybe have them sit towards the back so they can remove the baby if it starts to cry? I’d definitely call them either way to see how many “and family” is exactly.