(Closed) RSVP Oh my!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m sorry. It is like they think we can read people’s mind. I just sent out my RSVP today and I am anxiously waiting for the first one to return.

Post # 4
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have not sent out my invites but this makes me nervous.  Not only do you have to do all the planning but also chase everyone down to find out if their coming?  Where did common sense go. 

Post # 6
3311 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah… it happens to just about everyone.  I had about 50% that I ended up calling/emailing/talking to about whether they were coming or not, and some of those continued to waffle about what they were doing up to the day of!

Post # 7
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

oh I feel you. so many of my friends fit that first bill. ‘but you knew i was coming!’. argh.

Post # 8
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We were missing about half our RSVP’s too. The one that erked me the most was my cousin who said she was coming before the invites were sent and never replied. My mom tried to contact her and she never responded but has asked recently if she can stay with my parents over Thanksgiving. You just gotta laugh sometimes.

Post # 9
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

YESSSSSSSSS seriously SO FRUSTRATING!! I keep trying to tell myself that these people just don’t realize what it’s like to plan a wedding. That only calms me down a little bit though. The day after our RSVP date we were missing about 30% of our responses. With the typical responses of “of course we will be there” but actually the majority were nos. I guess people were afraid to tell they couldn’t attend?? My fave so far has been from a mother with a son in college when we asked if he was attending. Wedding is three weeks out and she told us we would have to “get over it” because there is “no way we can get an accurate count of who is going to be there” and also because there is “no way her son knows what he is doing in three weeks.” Uhhhhhhhh, so are we supposed to put him down as a a no? yes? or what, haha??!?! I have been amazed by the nerve, disrespect, and selfishness some people have when it comes to complying with the planning part of the wedding process.

Post # 10
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh yes! I was speaking with brother Friday on the phone and I asked if he had received his invitation yet. He said, “Yeah, I got it. But I’m not sending the card back because you know I am coming.” Really?? So I simply told him that the wedding coordinator is handling the headcount and that if she doesn’t have an RSVP card, then there isn’t a seat, meal or favor reserved, as I am not at all involve din that stuff (totally bluffing but he doesn’t know). well surprise, surprise, get what I received in today’s mail? I also got a text from a cousin (my bro’s best friend) saying that he thinks he lost his and asking if I can send another so the wedding coordinator will count him in. Worked like a charm!

Post # 11
39 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

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Good call on the wedding coordinator!  I don’t have one, but I’ll have to think of another “person” who is “in charge” of that portion of the wedding 😉

Post # 12
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Talishazwi: Exactly my situation. My brother – and his family – is in the wedding and he said to me, we don’t need to rsvp. I reminded him that I needed to know what they wanted to eat!

Two more weeks until rsvp deadline and I’ve got half in! Very happy. Of course, I also have 2 adults who ordered the child’s chicken tenders and a +1 who ordered a meal, but their name is “Unsure.”

Just have to laugh!

Post # 13
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wait till the wedding day when those who did RSVP dont show up and those that did not will come and maybe with extra people…..you are sure to have a ball….


Post # 14
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

how annoying!!  Yes, people are amazingly rude with RSVPs.  Try to stay calm and simply say it’s mandatory that they all reply.

If it helps, we all have friends/family who are hopeless with this stuff!

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