RSVP on invitations?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

Why not direct them to RSVP on your website? That way you’re not trying to keep track of various emails/phone calls/texts, you have a better record of who has rsvp’d, and it feels more formal/official from the guest perspective. 

Post # 3
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I think it’s totally fine to do it online but I’d give just one email address, you could even make one just for the RSVPs or a wedding website would work too. When you give multiple numbers and emails it can get easy to miss some. It’s easier to keep them all in one place. 

Post # 4
541 posts
Busy bee

For my invites I had printed RSVP on the bottom of the front, flip the invite over and it had both our email addresses and my voicemail number. I didn’t want people to have to wonder if they still had correct email/phone numbers for us but wanted to leave them with multiple options so they could contact us however made them comfortable.

ETA: if you want to write on the front just say “RSVP by date”… saying “Please RSVP by date” means “please respond if you please by date” which sounds mighty awkward 😛

“Please respond by date” would be another option.

Post # 5
521 posts
Busy bee

Print it on the invite and save the money!! Wouldnt bother me at all and I have actually recieved 3 invites that did that within the last year

Post # 6
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Iprintedit on the invite – saved soo much money. You definitely need to include either your phone number or email though; your guests may have lost their contacts or not know if you still have the same number. 

We had RSVP by ”date” and then my mobile underneath.

Post # 7
1039 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Ours were on the bottom of the invitation, which was a single A5 page e-vite. It was no problem.

Post # 8
3396 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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vw97 :  it’s fine to say ‘RSVP to (email or phone number) by (date)


you don’t need to add please. RSVP stands for the french repondez s’il vous plait which mean please respond. If you put please RSVP you’re saying ‘please please respond’

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