Post # 1
We are taking advantage of the RSVP option available on our wedding website. I found this cool idea at Bella Figura and we went with it.
I also only addressed the envelopes to only adults, except in about 3 or 4 cases (out of 90) where I invited the adults and thier college age children (my second cousins) with one invitation. I’m planning to mail the invitations next week.
Now I’m setting up the RSVP option on the website and see that there is a pull-down option where people have to choose how many people will be attending. I can set that to be a max of 1-5 people. I’m very tempted to set it at 2 people so it will be polite and make it very clear that no kids are invited, but there are these few cases where the families will need 4 or 5 people. So should I set the max to 5 and risk some uninvited kids being added? (Then I’d have to make an awkward phone call to those people) Or should I leave it at 2 and call the few families individually and explain that they can put their kids that can come in the comment box and I’ll see that?
Post # 3
I’d set it to two and call the few families if you think there is any chance that others will try to bring kids.
Post # 4
I personally would set it to 2 and then explain to those few families. I’d also include something on the website about it being an adult only occasion as those people who post AFTER those few families will see the 2 children in the comment box and might go “oh, that’s what we do about kids”.
Post # 5
@littlemissmoo I don’t think the RSVPs and comments are shown publicly, but that’s a good thing to check on!
Thanks for the quick replies! I’m thinking I’ll just call my cousins too, but Fiance got me all worried about it last night, so I thought I’d put it out there.
Post # 6
I would just set it at 2. I imagine if these kids are college age, thay can RSVP for themselves separate then their parents. Does that make sense? If they call about being limited to 2, then tell them to RSVP for your cousins separately. Otherwise, I like the idea about the comments, but make sure none of the other guests can seen them.