Post # 1
So I created a custom great online rsvp that notifies us by email AND automates in a nice excel sheet who can attend and who cannot as well as their meal choices, etc. They just go to our website and click rsvp (I can choose to hide/password protect it but I have not yet)
However, we are inviting over 300 people and do have some older folks are going to want to send them in and some people are old fashioned (i.e. my fiance is very much traditional). I do not want to be cheap or inconvenience anyone either by not sending the returned stamped rsvp…any suggestions?
I know from the weddings I’ve been to and attended how hard it is to get those things back BUT can I do both? This way even if people don’t mail it back they can go online and submit it?
I wish there were stamps that did not activate unless they were mailed out…………..
Post # 2
Yep – I think a lot of people do both. It’s totally fine.
Post # 3
summerbride2016: we are doing both. Everyone is getting an RSVP card with their invite, but we also have an RSVP option on our wedding website
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2016 - Harn Homestead
We are doing snail mail only, but that is because of the Mother-In-Law. I feel both is fine and almost the norm now and days
Post # 5
Personally, I would just include the stamps for the people I thought might actually use them. Friends my age I would always expect to use the Internet.
For what it’s worth we gave everyone all of the options: phone, online, in person and mail. We had 100% RSVP before the deadline and not a single one by post. Even our grandparents called, visited or used the online form.
Post # 6
We gave people the option of using either method – sent stamped envelopes with the invitation and had an RSVP section on our website. I’d say about 2/3 replied by snail mail, including many younger guests. In retrospect, I’d glad I did both, but guests seemed to prefer filling out the card and mailing it back.
Post # 7
I thought of doing this as well. Although I if I did both options I would feel an obligation to attach a stamp to the invite and frown at the number of money I am wasting by attaching stamps that will never be used (I am having a larger wedding too so it adds up!).
Post # 8
summerbride2016: I also have a giant guest list, and invites were one of our budget areas (you know, so we could have a band 🙂 )
We have our online RSVP open, and people are responding to it. I did include RSVP cards & pre addresses envelopes for specific people who are not internet friendly, but otherwise we kept the invites to be as simple as possible.
We did have another motive – the majority of people invited have to travel (and would have had to no matter wher the wedding was located). Our wedding is in a popular island in New England where it is very hard to find hotel rooms after mid may. Our website has a ton of travel info and accommodations info, and we hoped that by using online RSVP that people * have * would also go through the other details. Based on the calls we are getting to help arrange transport and hotels, I’d say our plan is working!
Post # 9
You can definitely do both.
Post # 10
We gave my parents generation and older the option for online and a post card with a stamp. Everyone younger got a detailed insert for how to RSVP online. We didn’t have any issues.