(Closed) RSVP – online or snail mail w/ stamp (OR both?)

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Yep – I think a lot of people do both.  It’s totally fine.  

Post # 3
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Honey bee

summerbride2016:  we are doing both. Everyone is getting an RSVP card with their invite, but we also have an RSVP option on our wedding website 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Harn Homestead

We are doing snail mail only, but that is because of the Mother-In-Law. I feel both is fine and almost the norm now and days

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Personally, I would just include the stamps for the people I thought might actually use them. Friends my age I would always expect to use the Internet. 

For what it’s worth we gave everyone all of the options: phone, online, in person and mail. We had 100% RSVP before the deadline and not a single one by post. Even our grandparents called, visited or used the online form.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We gave people the option of using either method – sent stamped envelopes with the invitation and had an RSVP section on our website. I’d say about 2/3 replied by snail mail, including many younger guests. In retrospect, I’d glad I did both, but guests seemed to prefer filling out the card and mailing it back. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I thought of doing this as well.  Although I if I did both options I would feel an obligation to attach a stamp to the invite and frown at the number of money I am wasting by attaching stamps that will never be used (I am having a larger wedding too so it adds up!).

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

summerbride2016:  I also have a giant guest list, and invites were one of our budget areas (you know, so we could have a band 🙂 )

We have our online RSVP open, and people are responding to it.  I did include RSVP cards & pre addresses envelopes for specific people who are not internet friendly, but otherwise we kept the invites to be as simple as possible.

We did have another motive – the majority of people invited have to travel (and would have had to no matter wher the wedding was located).  Our wedding is in a popular island in New England where it is very hard to find hotel rooms after mid may.   Our website has a ton of travel info and accommodations info, and we hoped that by using online RSVP that people * have * would also go through the other details.  Based on the calls we are getting to help arrange transport and hotels, I’d say our plan is working!  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can definitely do both.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

We gave my parents generation and older the option for online and a post card with a stamp. Everyone younger got a detailed insert for how to RSVP online. We didn’t have any issues.

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