RSVP Online – Pros & Cons

posted 9 months ago in Logistics
Post # 2
51 posts
Worker bee

We did paper invites with online RSVPs. Nearly every wedding website offers a version of this (I’ve recently seen friends use withjoy as well as a squarespace site with an RSVP button). I thought it was a good compromise between having a paper object to send to guests and not having to spend as much $ on flattened trees 🙂

Post # 3
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We did online RSVPs with a telephone number for non-technical people – within the first day of people receiving invites, we had 10% of our responses back, it was so quick and easy for people. It also saved money on RSVP cards and return stamps (that might never have got sent and been a waste!), And we didn’t have any of the wondering if an rsvp went missing.

It also meant we could control the guest list (no aunt Muriel adding on stray cousins who weren’t invited!) And also force guests to pick their menu option and tell us their name, rather than receiving a half completed rsvp card back!

Post # 4
5962 posts
Bee Keeper

I quite liked our online RSVPs. I used and it was so helpful. We had 3 courses guests had to choose, with 2-3 options each. Guests could pick their options, and it input everything into a spreadsheet super organized to give to our caterers. 

That said, 99% of our guestlist was pretty internet savvy. We also gave the option to call or email their RSVPs so we had maybe 5 emails and 2 calls (all declines). If you have lots of people who are not familiar with internet or dont have easy access to it, it might be more difficult. 

Post # 5
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

We did 100% online.

Pro: easy, not wasteful.

Con: no one related to me or Darling Husband RSVPd. I’m not sure they would have abywan though.. they all just assumed we would know and keep track without having to tell us.  Most of them are out of country so putting the appropriate stamps on an rsvp envelope would’ve been impossible, so honestly even if the fact it was an online RSVP is part of why they didn’t RSVP, I don’t regret it.

Post # 6
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I used paper invites but online RSVP like u to say money on the rsvp card, only thing is to make sure elderly guests have another option eg phone you.

It was great as I could easily keep track of who responded and who hadn’t and also no one could add extra people to the rsvp.

i used anrsvp which is free to use for our rsvp though it doesn’t mean people will respond quicker.


Post # 7
2833 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I used paper invites but had everyone RSVP on our wedding website, most of the weddings I’ve been invited to over the last few years have had online RSVP’s. 

It just seemed easier as most of the people we were inviting are regularly at a computer and I didn’t trust that everyone would take the time to fill it out, stamp it, and put it in the mail (even though it’s not that hard). 

It was nice to have it organized online too without having to do much. 

I know several our our invites got lost, and with an online RSVP system you obviously don’t have to worry about that.

I did have a few people reach out and say they were having problems using the site, but I think it was user error lol.

Post # 8
384 posts
Helper bee

we did mainly online, with our phone number and email address as backup options. I had two phone calls, from an aunt and an older couple who are not technologically savvy, and one email. Otherwise everybody rsvp’d online. I only had to follow up with a couple people.

It was definitely worth it to me to save on the cost of RSVP cards, envelopes, stamps, and printing cost!

Post # 9
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 -  Australia

I built my own wedding website and have an RSVP section there. We also printed 10 or so paper invites for old people but most of them were able to RSVP themselves online. Wouldn’t have done it any other way. Online is the way to go!

Post # 10
11474 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Pros: More convenient and less expensive. 


Will imply a more casual affair to some guests if that matters to you.

Guests are traditionally supposed to know how to reply in the format of the invitation without the crutch. 

Emails can get buried and ignored. With an invitation, people usually have it in front of them as a reminder to reply.

Post # 11
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

We did online without any issues!

Post # 12
74 posts
Worker bee

Our current plan is to have printed save the dates and online invites. We’ll also be printing invites for close family, elderly folks, and the two aunts who scrapbook and would really treasure a printed invite. Online RSVPs 100% no matter what, though PPs did convince me that we also need to list a phone number. 
I can’t imagine tracking paper RSVPs. I’d lose my mind.

Not to steal your thread, OP, but my question would be: should we bother with the printed save the dates? My thought process was that by sending out a magnet or postcard, people would have physical reminder to save the date. But now everyone uses online calendars; should we just save the $200 and go digital?

Post # 13
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Digital all the way!

You’ll have to follow-up with guests (always a few that take a while to reply) either way, mostly over email/digital reminder or text anyway.  And when you do follow up, simply mention that you’re happy to enter the RSVP for them, just need a yay or nay.

Plus, with most online wedding sites, you have the ability to see if the guests have opened the email, opened the e-invite, etc..  There are glitches every now and then, but overall, I’ve been very pleased.  

Save money while you can.  As things rev up and the wedding approaches, you’ll be throwing money at things for the sake of convenience and your sanity. :p

Post # 14
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I. Considering doing online i think almost every guest is capable of going online and doing this I do like the idea of adding a phone number I only have one uncle I’m not sure if he has access to a computer. We are just now looking into invitations costs and not having to buy envelopes and stamps for an rsvp would be nice. 

Post # 15
14 posts
  • Wedding: October 2018

We made a video/ slideshow save the date and everyone loved it so much we made another one for the day invite! 

We personalosed it with photo, music, captions, humour, love… 

We made it on Adobe Spark for free and it took a few hours. 


On the slideshow we included all details including rsvp and we said either to reply to this message (as we sent it via email/ WhatsApp/ messenger) or to email our email address. We had 80% of our rsvps within a day! 😂

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