RSVP Online – Pros & Cons

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 16
13889 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My con is that I literally always forget to RSVP online.  With the paper ones, I leave the response card on the counter until I get around to filling it out.  I also don’t like to sign on my computer much in the evenings because I spend my entire day in front of multiple computers, so I’m not going to get the invitation and race to the computer to RSVP as soon as I get the invite. 

Darling Husband was a groomsman in a wedding recently and they had online RSVPs.  He put the invitation away in his office and I forgot all about it.  The groom called and asked if we were planning on coming because the RSVP date was literally that day and we hadn’t responded.  I felt like an ass, but I genuinely just forgot about it and had nothing to remind me to respond.


Post # 17
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We did online RSVPs. We had a wedding website which could technically do it, but I created a different one using Google Forms instead and put the link on both the RSVP section of the wedding website and also on the (eletronic) invitations. So all people had to do was look at the invitation on their email, click the link and RSVP.

The invitations also gave an address. We included this more for convention than anything else and I didn’t expect anyone to actually write to us to respond. It seems to be a generational thing though. We got about 50% of the replies online (mostly younger guests), 45% by post (mostly older guests – it was actually really lovely to get all the hand-written cards. These people obviously went to some effort), and the other 5% via other means (mostly text or email RSVPs. A couple of my Mum’s friends replied via her).

Personally I always lose paper RSVPs and MUCH prefer replying to other people’s weddings online. We chose to do electronic mostly to aid organisation and not to save money (although saving money and paper is also good).

Post # 18
1538 posts
Bumble bee

We put an email address and phone number for rsvps, was no dramas at all

Post # 19
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We included a small “RSVP online at this link by this date and select your meal” card with our invitations. No issue at all! It was nice to save a bit on paper/stamps.

Post # 23
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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frenchtoastvegan :  The only thing I do not like about online RSVP is due to an issue I have with RSVP-ing to awedding using the online method.

When the invitations were close to going out, the bride texted my partner (now fiance) to get his email so she could send an invitation. Because the invitations went out via email to everyone all at once, they were not addressed personally to anyone. Therefore, it was very confusing for fiance and I to determine who was actaully invited. Was it him and I? Just him? Him and a plus one? Normally it would make sense to say obviously both of us, but this bride was a friend of only my fiance and she and I do not get along. So It was annoying tryign to figure out if I was actually invited or not.

AS WELL.. she did not BCC everyone! Therefore, everyone invited to the wedding now has everyone elses email addresses. Probably jsut an oversight on the brides part, but keep that in mind!!!

I think if you go the online route, you should email each person individually and address it to them specifically, so they really know who is invited.

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