Post # 16
My con is that I literally always forget to RSVP online. With the paper ones, I leave the response card on the counter until I get around to filling it out. I also don’t like to sign on my computer much in the evenings because I spend my entire day in front of multiple computers, so I’m not going to get the invitation and race to the computer to RSVP as soon as I get the invite.
Darling Husband was a groomsman in a wedding recently and they had online RSVPs. He put the invitation away in his office and I forgot all about it. The groom called and asked if we were planning on coming because the RSVP date was literally that day and we hadn’t responded. I felt like an ass, but I genuinely just forgot about it and had nothing to remind me to respond.
Post # 17
We did online RSVPs. We had a wedding website which could technically do it, but I created a different one using Google Forms instead and put the link on both the RSVP section of the wedding website and also on the (eletronic) invitations. So all people had to do was look at the invitation on their email, click the link and RSVP.
The invitations also gave an address. We included this more for convention than anything else and I didn’t expect anyone to actually write to us to respond. It seems to be a generational thing though. We got about 50% of the replies online (mostly younger guests), 45% by post (mostly older guests – it was actually really lovely to get all the hand-written cards. These people obviously went to some effort), and the other 5% via other means (mostly text or email RSVPs. A couple of my Mum’s friends replied via her).
Personally I always lose paper RSVPs and MUCH prefer replying to other people’s weddings online. We chose to do electronic mostly to aid organisation and not to save money (although saving money and paper is also good).
Post # 18
We put an email address and phone number for rsvps, was no dramas at all
Post # 19
We included a small “RSVP online at this link by this date and select your meal” card with our invitations. No issue at all! It was nice to save a bit on paper/stamps.
Post # 20
weddingmaven : You make a good point that people might assume a more casual event. While I am not concerned with what our guest wear, I don’t think that matters, I do want our wedding to feel sophisticated & elegant. Thank you for adding more perspective!
everwoods : No worries, hijack away! If I wasn’t so in love with stationary, I’d probably opt for digital save the dates as well. Great idea!
jupiterbee : That is a very important consideration! There always last minute items that need cash, thank you for that reminder!
autumnbridetobe : Oooo that is so sweet and personal! I wish I was that tech savy!
Post # 21
JiminyCricket : I am right there with you about not logging on to my computer once I am home. That’s a solid consideration given that most people I know stare at computers all day.
Post # 22
Thank you Bees for all your responses and insight! I am certainly leaning more towards online RSVPs to help organize & save a little cash.
Funny enough, we received a beautiful letter press wedding invitation last night from friends and they had an lovely RSVP card which made me wish for a heartry budget, ha!
Post # 23
frenchtoastvegan : The only thing I do not like about online RSVP is due to an issue I have with RSVP-ing to awedding using the online method.
When the invitations were close to going out, the bride texted my partner (now fiance) to get his email so she could send an invitation. Because the invitations went out via email to everyone all at once, they were not addressed personally to anyone. Therefore, it was very confusing for fiance and I to determine who was actaully invited. Was it him and I? Just him? Him and a plus one? Normally it would make sense to say obviously both of us, but this bride was a friend of only my fiance and she and I do not get along. So It was annoying tryign to figure out if I was actually invited or not.
AS WELL.. she did not BCC everyone! Therefore, everyone invited to the wedding now has everyone elses email addresses. Probably jsut an oversight on the brides part, but keep that in mind!!!
I think if you go the online route, you should email each person individually and address it to them specifically, so they really know who is invited.
Post # 24
gunnabamissus : Oof that sounds really confusing and super unorganized! Ugh, I can imagine how many people replied all, super annoying LOL
I plan on doing paper save the dates & invitations (stationary is very important to me) so I am hopeful to minimize the confusion on who is invited. I’d like to save alittle on RSVP cards & stamps if online RSVP works just as well.