Post # 1
So today I received my first RSVP that included an univited guest. After hearing this scenario so many times from others I confidently sent my cousin a friendly text explaining that we really can’t afford extra guests, so sorry, wish we could, etc. He was super understanding. Then I find out that he’s been dating the girl for a year and a half, even though no one (besides his parents/sister) even knew he had a girlfriend! While I know that technically, I could still say no because they’re not engaged, I immediately felt like a scumbag.
So I apologized and insisted he bring her. Luckilly he seems fine with the whole thing but I still feel like a jerk. Plus there’s been all this family drama with his parents lately and I feel like I just added a little fuel.
Ugh…one more month 🙂
Post # 3
no worries! There was no way you could have known
Post # 4
I’m sure he is just appreciative that he can bring her, and probably thinks it’s nice that you were gracious enough to apologize & allow her to come. You couldn’t have known!
I did the same thing with my cousin, and her mom asked me if it might be okay for her to bring her Boyfriend or Best Friend to the wedding because they’ve been dating quite a long time, and he was in town staying with my aunt’s family for the weekend (he lives in Chicago, they live in NE Ohio). I felt so bad! What can you do, though?
Post # 5
Don’t worry about it. If he didn’t share it, then there’s no way for you to know. You’ve made amends by apologizing and inviting the girlfriend. If he or his parents us the situation to create drama, then that bad behavior is on them, not you.
Post # 6
Silly cousin! Honestly, if no one thought to share the info with you…you can hardly be held accountable for not knowing to give him a plus one. You did the right thing by apologizing her and including her. I don’t see why this would cause any drama – don’t worry!