(Closed) RSVP plus more than one!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I call them and tell them that they can only bring one guest??
    Yes, this is not acceptable : (63 votes)
    68 %
    No, just let them come : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Mom should deal with it : (28 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
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    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Oh wow…that is a tough situation.  My mom is telling me to invite her sister in law too, and she said that the lady won’t come.  Now I’m worried too.  But back to you, that is TOTALLY unacceptable.  You should call and ask them specifically who they are bringing and go on from there…

    Post # 4
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    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    How was your wording on the invite? 

    Post # 5
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    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You can always call and pretend you didn’t get the RSVP. When they try to tell you over the phone that they are adding 9 extra people (which would be really bold!) you can address the fact that only they are invited (or maybe +1 but certainly not +9)!

    Post # 6
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    That’s really unacceptable. I’d call them, pretend like it’s a misunderstanding and let each of them know that invitation is only for 1 person. +9 is absolutely ridiculous!

    Post # 7
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    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m curious to see your wording but unless you wrote to Sister in law and family, adding 5 and 9 people is unacceptable. You probably could have your mother call but only if you think she won’t get convinced to add all these extra people. If not, I would do it myself. 

    Post # 8
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would call and very nicely say “we received your rsvp and we are so happy that you can make it.  However, unfortunately, due to restrictions imposed by our venue we cannot accomodate 5/9 guests from your family.  I understand if you can’t come without your family, but we hope you can still make it alone/with a guest.”

    Post # 11
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    1106 posts
    Bumble bee

    Someone needs to call and tell them no!

    Preferrably your mom, but since you are the bride, I think it would be fine if you called.

    Post # 12
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    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Agaskins24: I meant the wording of your invitation. Was there a spot to fill I’m a number or write names or anything? This is so crazy to me they would do this! I would love to see a pic of their response card, that they just scribbled +9 like that’s normal….ridiculous 

    Post # 13
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    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think whoever formally sent the invitation should call.

    Eg, my invitations said, “Mr. and Mrs. brides parents and Mr. and Mrs. grooms parents request the honor of your presence…” So in that case one of the parents should call. But, if the invitation is actually in your name, “John and Jane invite you to attend their wedding…” then and only then should you call.

    Post # 14
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    79 posts
    Worker bee

    I agree with other posters that you should contact them and I think it’s fine to just be perfectly honest and gracious and call them and say something like:

    “Hi it’s Agaskins24, I just recieved your RSVP card and I am so happy that you are able to attend, however I think that there has been a misunderstanding as the invitation was meant only for you and one guest. I hope that this doesn’t change your plans and that you are still able to come but unfortunately we are unable to accomodate the people that you added to the response.”

    Completely polite, and true because OBVIOUSLY they didn’t understand.

    Post # 15
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think that is absurd. If I got an invitation and it was only addressed to me, I might return it with just my name, and if I’m close to the bride/groom, ask if my live in boyfriend or other serious significant other could come, but if they said, budget’s really tight, we can’t really do more 1+’s, I’d understand. I don’t want to be ungrateful– I got an invite! Adding 9, or 5, or even 1 without even having the decency to check with the bride is just rude.

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