RSVP POLL – Mail in Card or Website Response?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Do you prefer to:
    MAIL in an RSVP card w/ prepaid postage : (45 votes)
    61 %
    RSVP through the couple's website : (29 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 2
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    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015 - Miami, Fl

    We’re actually giving guests the option. I will not be adding stamps though. I expect about 80% of our guest list to RSVP on our website, so it seems like a waste to include stamps that won’t be used. 

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    CallMeMrsG:  The very traditional etiquette on this is that a response should be delivered via the same format as the invitation. For example, if your friend Sally calls to invite you to dinner, you can call her back to thank her and to accept such an invitation. 

    If you send a mailed invitation, the response back should also be a mailed note. 

    It used to be the case that upon receiving a wedding invitation, you would reply quickly, using your own stationary, and mail the response back to the host. In my circles, this is rarely done anymore. Most of my friends do not have their own stationary, and would likely text or call to reply to such an invitation if a card was not included. 

    That being said, I still think a card is more traditional, because it responds to the invitation using the same media. 

    Post # 4
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    137 posts
    Blushing bee

    CallMeMrsG:  I don’t think it is tacky at all to do the RSVPing through your website. The only reason I didn’t was because on the website template I used there was no option for “plus guest”, so I didn’t know how to get around that. Plus I always thought it would be exciting to get the RSVPs back in the mail. However, with the number of people you are inviting, I do see your problem with the cost of the postage. If you do decide to do mail back RSVPs I think it is necessary to include postage. I hear my friends complaining all the time about how people expect them to send their RSVP in the mail but didn’t include a stamp. It isn’t even that they are expensive for guests to buy, its just an added hassle.

    If I was in your shoes I would do it through the website and add a note into the invite saying to RSVP online.

    Post # 5
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    1325 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

    CallMeMrsG:  This is exactly what I did.  I’m chasing down a few now, but the VAST majority were able to handle it. And no one said it was tacky.

    Post # 6
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    3036 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

    My friend did online RSVPs and I honestly don’t think she got many back that way…. people don’t rsvp as it is and I don’t think it helped the problem at all. 

    Post # 7
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    7918 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Having an online RSVP option is a modern choice. Most people are going to find a web RSVP more convenient, but it’s still good to have a paper version for those who aren’t computer savvy and those who just can’t get it to work.

    We have website, email, and postcard options for RSVP. Surprisingly, most of our RSVPs have been on the website. I personally like the email option so I can include a personal note and any additional questions. 

    Post # 8
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    241 posts
    Helper bee

    CallMeMrsG:  I’m like you and just wanted to use the website. In the end we are doing response postcards, but only for those who are older. They still save a little bit on postage.

    Post # 10
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    178 posts
    Blushing bee

    IceAndFire I just wanted to echo your sentiment about the postage. The costs can add up, but I agree its necessary to include it, no matter what.

     

    Post # 11
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    901 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

    We had both as an option. 1 person RSVP’d online, 70% used the cards, a few called and the rest I had to contact to find out. So frustrating. 

    Just do the cards. 

    Remember, you NEED to have postage on your RSVP envelopes so that’s an additional $72 along with IF your whole invitation, with all the insert cards and depending on the size and weight might not be just your standard cost. Most invitations will cost slightly more. BE sure to put them all together and take it to the post office to be weighed and measured. If it’s too thick they charge extra. If it’s square, they charge extra. If the weight is heavier, it’s extra. It adds up when you have a lot of invitations.

    Post # 12
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    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We did online RSVPs only, to try to get people to visit the website. It didn’t work very well, lots of people didn’t RSVP and we had to follow up.  It is hard to know whether people are just terrible at replying, or if the website method was the problem.

    Post # 13
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    294 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I’m going to do both. It’s nice to have online as an option for convenience, but those who are more traditional or aren’t super tech savvy can still mail a RSVP card. 

    Post # 14
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    663 posts
    Busy bee

    We did mail in response card but we didn’t do pre-paid postage for them. 

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    CallMeMrsG:  Anyone who’s tech savvy enough to use the website will be fine with that, but those who don’t regularly use computers should get a traditional card.  Also, be prepared to make A LOT of phone calls! People are surprisingly bad about RSVPing in the first place, and with a webiste it’s even lower responses in my experience. 

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