(Closed) RSVP postage paid

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Are you sending the RSVP with the postage already attached?
    Yes : (38 votes)
    84 %
    No : (4 votes)
    9 %
    I am not doing paper RSVPs, I am having them RSVP online. : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    940 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I wouldn’t say it’s horrible. But in the United States at least, it’s good etiquette.  I can’t say I know what’s considered appropriate in Seville.

    Think of the wedding invitations you’ve received.  If the response card had a stamp, then I think you should include one, too.

    Post # 4
    1757 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m also unsure about the proper etiquette in Spain. However, here’s my rationale for attaching postage: A lot of my friends pay their bills online and have automatic transfers set up to pay rent. They simply don’t have stamps at home, let alone postcard postage (we’re doing postcards to save money). If I don’t include a stamp, it will almost certainly delay the return of the cards, perhaps indefinitely. I’d rather attach postage than have to worry about calling 90% of my guest list 5 days past the RSVP deadline.

    Post # 5
    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I don’t think it’s horrible… but the thing is, it’s hard enough to get people to send back the card WITH a stamp.  Without a stamp, people may put it off or not send it at all.  So, I’m definitely attaching one!

    Post # 7
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    Is there someone in the states that could collect the RSVPS for you or could you offer an online option?

    Post # 8
    1045 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2008


    Are you getting the RSVP cards returned to you overseas, or are they going to someone else (like a family member) for collecting in the US (your wedding is in New York, right?)  Are you sending your US invitations from overseas? 

    I live in England, but our wedding was in the US, and most of our guests were from the US.  What I did was order stamps from the USPS to be shipped to my mother (enough for the invitation, response cards, and thank you notes).  I had a sample invitation sent to her beforehand, so she took it to the Post Office on one of her trips, to be weighed so I knew what stamps to order.  The US invitations were stamped and sent from the US– it would’ve been a lot more expensive to send each one from here.  Is there anyone on the US side who can help you?

    Also, the response cards came back to my mother, and she collected them all and emailed me the accepts/declines.  I also had a RSVP online feature on our website– about 25% of the guests used this instead of mailing their card.

    While I was in the US for the wedding, I picked up the remaining postage, which I had ordered for my thank you notes.  I wrote all of them back in England, and addressed and stamped them, then put them all combined in a huge padded envelope and sent to my sister in the US.  She then put all the individual stamped cards into the mailbox for me.  Saved me a bunch of money– around 7 pounds for the whole pack, rather than 90 pence each if I had sent each individual note from the UK.

    Post # 9
    3125 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Yes i like that idea – could you use someone in the US as an RSVP collector? they could email you the tally!

    Post # 10
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Outside North America, postcards cost the same as a regular letter, so $0.98 each. You’ll need to get the stamps in the US (you can probably order them online).


    I would say… online might honestly be easiest for you, unless you’ve got a LOT of people who you think won’t be tech-friendly.

    Post # 11
    1045 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2008

    We used the online RSVP on our mywedding.com website, and it worked out perfectly.  When my mother emailed me about a mailed RSVP card, I would actually RSVP for the people on my website, just so I had an easy running tally.

    Post # 13
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    This is what I thought when I sent my invitations out.  I’ll sent it to old fashioned people.  “older folks”  I didn’t give a stamp to close friends or people who I regularly have access to either email, text, or fb. I was thinking why waste a stamp when there are other free ways to respond. Also, a lot of my guests do go on the internet often. I didn’t think it would be a big deal.

    I also had my home number, email address and website.  I figure people would text me.

    So of the 100 invitations that I was sending, about 35 of them did not have stamps.

    Want to know what everyone did? (I had 130 guests.)  All of them mailed back except 1 person who used the website and another person texted me.  I was very suprised how many could have picked up the phone or could have emailed me or could have told me on fb.

    I actually felt bad that I didn’t give everyone a stamp. If I could do it again, I would have given them a stamp.  But I would affix it to the envelope. I would leave the backing on it, so if they decide to use the website or call me; they could use the stamp for another letter.

    Oh, try to get forever stamps!  Just in case the postage goes up again.  I used forever stamps but my one friend for her wedding didn’t and she was missing a bunch of reply cards.

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