(Closed) RSVP Question

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1426 posts
Bumble bee

I haven’t sent out my invites yet (bit early, still) but from what I’ve seen, people like to wait ’til the last minute. They’ll get it, put it aside and think “Yeah, I’ll do it later” and forget. (My Fiance is a perfect example).

If you’re still worried, maybe talk to your parents and FI’s parents, ask them what they think. If this is out of the norm, maybe they can start asking some guests if they’ve recieved the invites, since you haven’t received the RSVP’s and the deadline is coming up! That usually gets people into gear.

In the end, after the deadline, it never fails that brides have to start getting a hold of guests to find out what their RSVP is. This is why I’m doing RSVP by email and phone… find it a waste of money on paper and stamps since a good portion never send them back anyway.

Good luck!!

Post # 4
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I still have a lot of people who need to respond and my date is this saturday. The sad thing is that a lot of people just don’t rsvp anymore. I was going to put on my invite that people could call or email and I thought that would be tacky, but I wish I had.

Post # 5
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

Yes, it’s totally normal for people to be late with RSVP-ing. Many wait till the last minute, and unfortunately, many do not RSVP at all. Our deadline was August 15th, and we still haven’t gotten all of our cards back or even heard from everyone who was invited. It’s incredibly frustrating, but sadly, some people just don’t think about how much trouble not RSVP-ing on time (or at all!) causes us brides and grooms. Don’t worry yet, though. A huge surge will probably come in those last few days before your deadline. 

Post # 6
1815 posts
Buzzing bee

Our RSVP date is in 10 days and so far we’ve only heard from about 40 people. We invited 138. I’m planning my snarky facebook post already…something along the lines of ‘If you haven’t responded with your RSVP for the wedding 1. you’re rude. 2. you’re lazy. 3. you’re sitting at the shitty table.’

Post # 7
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

that seems strange.  I had RSVPS flooded back right after I sent them, and now am in a lull – our due date is 9/8.  Are you sure they got there?

Post # 8
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am chasing down my RSVP’s now. My deadline was the 15th and I still had 100 people to find out about at that time. Now I am down to 50 and I am not expecting them since they live all over the country.

Post # 10
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Sooooo many of my RSVPs came in at the eleventh hour! It’s normal to worry, but I bet a lot will come in the last week!

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