(Closed) RSVP question.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 1
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Should we add a line that says something like, “4 seats have been reserved in your honor”?  Or do you think these look fine?

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It always helps to have that line so people know how many people are actually invited (despite the names being written on the invitation)

Also, a personal preference, I like to know a little bit about the menu. IE what kind of beef, how is the chicken prepared. Is it shell fish or actual fish. Is the vegetarian a pasta or a great eggplant and tomato stack.  An example “Filet Mingnon and Salmon with burgundy mushroom sauce” or “Wild mushroom rissotto” 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

do you have the names of the invited on the inner envelope?  this would indicate who exactly is invited.  however, i know that a lot of brides have been having “extra” guests on their rsvp’s.   i did not have any issues whatsoever with my rsvp’s but you know your guest list.  will they try to add more guests???

also, with the way you have laid out your meal choices, how will you know which guest is picking which meal?  won’t your venue want to know for service?   i made spaces for each guest invited.  this way there was no guesswork.  these were diy so for single guests there was only one section and for 3 guests, i added another section.  this also indicated that there are only seats for 2 ppl or 1 or 3, etc.

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M__________________

__ accepts  __declines

__ chicken;  __ beef;  __vegetarian

M__________________

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__ chicken;  __ beef;  __vegetarian

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ThreeMeers:  Yeah, we were thinking about that, and decided we’d just let people know via word of mouth and facebook, etc. The descriptions are long, and annoying, and everyone we know likes all food (as long as there is a veggie option).  We like the simplicity of the design as it is.   Hmm…the surf is lobster.  We could probably add a little lobster icon to let people know.  I’ll talk to my fiance. 

I am worried because the RSVP cards are pretty small…where are all the words going to go?  

 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

We did not include anything about # of seats but we folled full protocal in addressing our invitations. We did not have a single person include an uninvited date. The only concern with your card that I have is that the nature of surf is unclear and many people are allergic to shellfish, but not fish.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  The lobster icon will add a bit more info.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

If you have a website, that’s a great place to give a fuller description of the menu, but I would recommend adding the lobster icon with the cute little cow and chicken.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mrsSonthebeach:  What did your protocol include?

 

I’m working on an idea of how to alert our guests to the nature of the menu without spelling it out…but if we included a little note, that would solve ALL the problems.  

“Dear friends, 

The menu that will be served is as follows:

surf and turf: lobster au gratin, beef tips glazed with barbeque sauce, marinated vegetables, and mashed potatoes with scallions

surf and fowl: lobster au gratin, baked chicken with red pepper jelly, grilled asparagus, and mashed potatoes with scallions.

vegetarian: half eggplant roasted with quinoa stuffing, with cheese sauce.  please contact us for specific dietary restrictions.

Please indicate on the RSVP card which guest would like which meal.  Thank you, and we look forward to hearing from you.  Sincerely yours, Peach and her MAN.”

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

This was our response card. On the envelopes, we clearly identified every person invited. I believe we used the Crane & Co. website as our guide, but we definitely consulted a number of other etiquette sources when confused.

Then our website read:

Guests have a choice of entrée from the following

Pistachio Encrusted Mahi Mahi Drizzled with a Vanilla Bean Sauce
served with baby vegetables and parmesan risotto
(hands down, the favorite at the tasting)

16 oz Hand Carved Rib Eye Premium Select Beef
Brushed with Cilantro Lime Butter
served medium-rare with baby vegetables and parmesan risotto

Grilled Vegetable Stack
served with baby vegetables and calypso rice

A Special Selection Will Be Prepared for Children Under 10

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I would add it. There are always some inconsiderate people who will say 6 of 4 or whatever but for people who just didn’t realize that will help clear it up. I plan to do this:

 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

The symbol at the end is for gluten free. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I found that line to be very helpful for us. That way people knew how much of their family was invited and didn’t assume we invited all their cousins and dogs. Numbers are your friend! Lol.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would highly recommend putting in the total number of party invited…we didn’t and ended up with a lot of extra guests we had to nix. We addressed the invites and envelopes specifically to say who was invited in that particular household but some decided that meant their adult children who live hundreds of miles away, their neighbors (ON BOTH SIDES OF THEIR HOUSE) and a few others that decided they wanted to bring not only a date but their friend too…oiyee!!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I put the “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” – haven’t had a problem so far.

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