(Closed) RSVP Question: Arriving Late to a Friday Night Wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think if you decide to have a Friday evening wedding you have to accept the fact that not all your guests will be able to take the day off and they may miss the ceremony. It was kinda rude for him to say he wished it was on a Saturday.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m biased, i went to a Friday night wedding last year and I made every effort to get there and I missed her ceremony. I felt awful but what was I supposed to do? Not RSVP yes because NJ traffic on a Friday is terrible?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, I might be a little hurt if it was someone close to me.  But, you did choose a Friday night, and I’m sure you don’t expect that all of your guests are going to take the day off for your wedding.  It’s true that’s its your wedding and you get to do it the way you want; but the people you invite are your guests and you should make an effort to accomodate and make it easy for people – that’s part of being a good host.  Would you rather they not come vs. being late?  Maybe you could suggest that they join you for the reception so they don’t interrupt the ceremony.  I live in Seattle, by the way, and I know that drive through Everett is a killer, why is it always worse on Fridays??  What time is your wedding? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Can you make the ceremony start time later since people are traveling?  Just a thought…

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that’s a pretty rude comment to leave on your facebook and there isn’t really any reason to give someone grief about what day they choose to marry.

I think some people will be late to a wedding no matter what day of the week it’s on.  And not everyone works Monday through Friday, 9-5…so even if you had it on a Saturday, I bet you would be inconveniencing someone.  I say either don’t come or don’t complain.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I can understand a guest saying that they might not be able to make it on a Friday, but it’s kind of ridiculous for them to say that they wish it was the following day.

I personally can’t see why most people wouldn’t be able to take a few hours off of work for a wedding. Hell, I am always looking for a reason not to work. Wink

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

These times aren’t just made up times – there is a formal invitation to arrive for an event at a certain time – don’t be late. I agree with you christalynn – if they can’t make plans ahead of time to attend, then they should RSVP no. It’s disrespectful to be late, let alone PLAN TO BE LATE. You’re not RSVPing for 8:30 Pm. you are RSVPing for 6:30. If you RSVP yes, it’s for the time on the card. So what if it’s on a friday – they can say no if they can’t make it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, I think the fact that she is planning ahead and knows they will be late and told you is a nice gesture.  You are the one having a Friday wedding.  There is a reason that most weddings are on a weekend… most people don’t have school or work.  Unless this is an immediate family member, getting upset that they don’t take vacation time from work to drive to your wedding that you scheduled on a work day is overboard.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@christa- your wedding sounds exactly like Future Brother-In-Law and FSIL’s wedding that we will be attending out of state next week.  We are both taking multiple days off of work to attend their Friday wedding and are happy to do so.  Like you, they are paying for their own wedding.

I still think that since she is a close family member, the fact that she told you ahead of time that her husband and child would be late was actually a nice gesture.  I missed the part where she posted this on your facebook wall – that’s a little odd, but it sounds like there may not be much they can do in terms of making it on time.

Seriously, don’t take it personally.  This comes with the territory when you have a Friday wedding. Fortunately you are having a late wedding, which will probably help. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh boy.  Friday wedding beats cash bar any day.

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