(Closed) RSVP Question – Can't get in contact with Guest

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we send an email to the guest saying we assume he's not coming?
    Send email explaining we tried to get in touch. We assume he's not coming and we hope all is well : (10 votes)
    77 %
    Assume he is not coming and don't communicate that to him : (3 votes)
    23 %
    Other: Explain in Comments : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2777 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m not sure how to handle this.  You said its $200 per person for food???

    If you can I would leave him a spot and fill it with someone else later on if he decides not to go.  Is this someone who was expected to come?

    I have family members that might not RSVP and then just show up thats why we are having a more casual thing and doing buffet.  I didn’t want to deal with headaches like yours. ;/

    Post # 4
    46612 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    In this case, as you know he checks facebook from time to time, I would leave him a facebook message and ask him to contact you re your wedding on (insert date).

    Rather than call him out publicly when he may not have received the invitation, I would carry on further communication privately.

    Post # 6
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    What’s your caterer’s contingency plan? Our caterer specifically state in the contract that they pack along extra guest meals in the event we have overflow, and we only need to pay if those meals are utilized. If that’s the case, then you can just assume he’s not coming and then you’ll still be covered if he is.

    In addition, on our wedding day, we had a few spouses/+1 not show up for various reasons. One couldn’t get out of work after all and another got sick. So there’s always the possibility that at least one of your seats opens up.

    If you’ve literally tried every possible way of locating him (besides calling in law enforcement – haha), then I would just give it up and count him as not available. I see your wedding is in October. When do you have to give your caterer the final numbers?


    Post # 7
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would just count him as a no for now and deal with the problem (if there is one) when he contacts you. 

    Post # 9
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I say assume he’s not coming and don’t say anything to him. You can always add an extra person last minute if he does decide to come.

    Post # 10
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Give him the final date you need to know by (in fb message, email, however the best way is to get in touch) and tell him that if you do not get a response by that date, you will mark him down as a no.

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