(Closed) RSVP Question, how to do +1 option for guests with kids

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Technically, you are supposed to inquire about whom she would want to bring and get his name and address and send that adult his own invitation.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

On my RSVP I put the following;

We have reserved 4 seats in your honor.

The number of seats were changed depending on who I was sending it too, this way your Aunt will know that she, the kids, and one guest are invited.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

@mishagirls79:  +1

I’m lazy and would do this. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Pinkmoon:  Stating the exact number of seat being reserved on the RSVP leaves no room for possible confusion on how many people you were allowing to come per household. Some of my RSVP say “1 seat”, most say “2”, some say “4”, it changed depending on the person I was mailing the invitation too. No unwanted guests this way.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@mimsmims7:  I think your over thinking it, your guests will understand why you reserved that # of seats for them.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

@mishagirls79:  Exactly why I’ll be doing this. But I’ll leave it up to my guest to full in their allotted +1’s names versus tracking them down. There’s the lazy part 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Pinkmoon:  Here is the format I used when printing my RSVP, keep in mind I did my own invitations. This idea will not work if you buy them from a company since they will print a standard RSVP.

M                                          

     We have reserved 1 seat in your honor

 {  } Accepts with Pleasure   {  } Declines with regrets

Entrée Selection:   {  } Chicken Marsala

                              {  } Prime Rib of Beef

                              { } Salmon with Dill & Lemon

Kindly Respond on or Before December 20, 2012

                         Adult Reception Only

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@mrsSonthebeach:  Actually I think that would be weird.  You send invitations to the couple – can you imagine getting a random wedding invitation from someone you didn’t know?

 If she has a SO, that person’s name should go on the invitation, as in

Ms. Jane Jones

Mr. John Smith

Jimmy and Sally 

If there’s no SO, and she’s being invited to bring a +1, it would be

Ms. Jane Jones and guest

Jimmy and Sally

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@oneofthesethings:  Adults who do not live together get their own invitation. Invitations should never be addressed to Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. This is the strict etiquette rule and I agree with it. I don’t think you should open the possibility of Ms. Jane Doe bringing a random friend from work (and I mean someone who isn’t actually a date, but just some one to go with her). I also don’t think adults need to be allowed a random guest. Their date should be someone they are actually seeing, in which case, that name should be readily available. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@mrsSonthebeach:  Well, no.  I think you’re confusing a SO and a plus-one.  A SO has a name, and should certainly be invited by name.  If a person has a spouse, fiance, or bf/gf, they should of course be invited.

A plus-one is the “and guest.”  This is offered to a person who doesn’t have a significant other.  You don’t HAVE to give plus-ones to people who are truly single, but it sure is nice (this coming from someone who endured 20 years of weddings alone).  In this case, obviously, you don’t know the person’s name, so what is it that you think you’re supposed to write?  You write “Ms. Jane Jones” on the outer envelope, and “Ms. Jane Jones and Guest” on the inner envelope.

Also, why does it matter who the plus-one is?  Who made you the date police?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@mimsmims7:  I’m not sure I understand what you’re asking.  If you address the invitation to Aunt and Guest, Jimmy, and Sally, then they have the option of as many as 4 people coming.  If you don’t want to put individual names on the RSVP cards, and they RSVP for fewer than 4, you can just call and find out who’s coming.

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