Post # 1
I’m ordering my invites & RSVPs.
I don’t understand how RSVP cards work. My caterer needs to know what each person wants for their meal. So then does each individual person need their own RSVP card?
Much confused. Such stress.
Post # 2
Put a mark like a sticker or a stamp on each place card, like a blue star for fish and a red star for beef, or whatever your meal choices are. When you do your seating chart, tell the caterer “table 6 gets 4 beef, 3 chicken and 1 vegetarian” or whatever. When the server gets to the table, the color coded stickers tells them who gets what.
if you seat people together that RSVP together, then if they RSVP as a couple and just say 1 beef 1 chicken, just assign Bob the chicken and Mary the beef; they’re a family unit and can switch plates if you guess wrong.
Post # 3
cls9q: We’re doing online RSVP, but for my FSIL wedding we received one card.
Ex. Chicken___ Beef___ Fish___
Then we wrote in what we wanted. I picked chicken, FI picked beef, so it looked like:
Chicken_1_ Beef_1_ Fish___
Does that make sense? One card per invitation, then people fill in how any of whatever meal they want.
Post # 4
I think people should be intelligent enuogh (though not always unfortunately) to let you know what they want. e.g. when FI and I got invited to a wedding, we rsvped 2 attending and then put a 1 next to the salmon and a 1 next the butternut squash. If someone checked something off I’d assume that all the people responding want that dish. Although then you are right, it gets confusing for who wants what… I think at that wedding the servers came to the tables and asked us what we had ordered. They knew how many of each thing to bring to the table but not whose is whose. Not sure if that helps!
Post # 5
Horseradish: Ahhh yes! I may have misunderstood the question.
I just figured people would tell the server what they ordered and it would be grouped per table. I wouldn’t worry too much about what each person orders individually as long as you have all of the orders, each table will figure it out.
Post # 6
If you want to know who is asking for which entree, you can ask them to initial their choice:
e.g John and Mary Smith are invited
Please initial your choice of entree
beef___js___ chicken__ ms___
beef __js, ms__ chicken ____
Post # 7
I had people initial next to what they wanted like in julies1949 example, and then provided the venue with how many dishes of each went to each table once I filled out a seating chart.
I also wrote (lightly) what each guest ordered on the back of the little seating cards that told people what table they were at, in case they forgot by the day of the wedding (I didn’t have menu cards at each place setting so maybe if you do that then this wouldn’t be needed). But my venue coordinator came up to me after dinner and thanked me for writing that information down because it helped the dinner service run really smoothly.
Post # 8
Don’t count on people to remember and definitely don’t count on them not to change their minds. They’re ordering dinner 2 months in advance and maybe when they get there, they’re just not in a chicken kind of mood, or the beef looks nicer, whatever. The caterer won’t have extras so you have to have some way for the staff to identify who gets what without asking. Plus if the staff can assemble the trays per table from a list that you provide, it’ll be waaaaay faster than them having to ask the guests or count the blue stickers at each table.