(Closed) RSVP rant!

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

76… I’m so sorry. That’s an awful lot of phone calls.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That would annoy me too!  I can sympathize for sure.  I think a lot of people really just don’t realize how important the RSVP is because I’ve heard of this happening all too often!  Not only do they not realize you really need the info, sometimes people assume you know they’re coming… but how could you know?  I mean, you know they care about you and want to be there but you can’t be sure they’re able to come.  And then there are others that are so bummed that they can’t make it that they postpone the bad news.  Sucks, but I’d get to callin!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I hear you! We’re 9.5 days out and 25 outstanding… not including the 10 or so family members who I finally caved on and just marked as “yes.” I really don’t get why they can’t just reply… but I’d like to think they don’t know they’re being rude (and maybe it’s been that long since their wedding they don’t remember what it’s like).

PS. Mom’s can be wrong too on those “well I know their response”… we have an out-of-town couple coming who Future Mother-In-Law “knew” wouldn’t make it out!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

OMG that would turn me into a Bridezilla!  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

hahah i’m so dealing with this right now… our deadline was monday, I know a holiday no mail so I was gracious until Wed… well it’s thursday people and still over half are missing.. also it’s funny my Fiance entire side, well his mother’s side has not responded at all.. unbelievable

I so feel your pain!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m dreading this scenario but I know it will happen as it seems to happen to everyone. I just don’t understand what is SOOOOO difficult about checking a box or whatever and dropping something in the mail. It’s so rude. I never ever miss RSVP deadlines, even before I was doing my own wedding planning.

Enlist your BMs to help with the calls. I’ve been brought in for that task as a Bridesmaid or Best Man many times.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Our deadline is today too!! When i get home tonight i have to go through and see how many people haven’t responded yet either. And yes it annoyed me sooo much when my Fiance was like so and so told me they were coming.  I was like NO you cannot mark them as coming until we get their card. He thought i was crazy!! Laughing

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yikes, that seems like a lot more than average. Hopefully your mom’s can both help out to ease the burden a bit.

I feel you, though. While we didn’t have that many people be late with their response, the ones that were kept saying, “we need more time to decide.” I felt like saying, “Umm, you had TWO months since you got the invitation. You need to decide now,” but we gave them all an extra week. We actually never even heard back from one of my friends after she said she was most likely coming, but needed to arrange travel (three hour drive). I called/e-mailed her three more times over a two-week span, and she never got back to me. In my last e-mail, I said, “I’m assuming you’re not coming” (in a nice way, of course), but still, how annoying, right?

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We are 2 weeks PAST our “Reply By” date, and we still have about 20% missing. We sent out emails last night to people. It is just annoying! We need to give head counts to the caterers next week. If they don’t reply by then I may just tell them they will not have a seat for dinner. I am not paying for food for people who don’t reply. People have been “telling us” too instead of sending the cards back. I mean, what did I spend money on stamps for anyway? Ugg! 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have a good one.  I had one person send back the card blank and the only way we knew was they had put a return address label on the envelope. Laughing We cannot make any easier for people like you said they are stamped and ready to go.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’ve got a little less than four weeks for the RSVP to come in on my destination wedding. We sent Save the Dates back in early September. You sort of figure at the STD point, you kind of make a decision “Yes” “No” or “Maybe”  and by the time the invitation arrives, you know.

We sent over 50 over three weeks ago. We’ve received 9. 

It blows my mind. Have people never been to or held weddings before? 

I think they feel because it’s a destination wedding, they don’t need to RSVP. Maybe they think we just put the card, envelope and stamp in there to be quaint and like to blow money on expensive stationary.

I can see me Bridezilla-ing over this.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Another question for this thread…did any of your receive RSVPs for MORE people than were on the invitation (i.e. did some of your single friends RSVP dates when no “and guest” was specified)? Our ceremony venue only holds 250 and we’re really limited on the guest list. I have a couple of friends that I’m afraid would try to pull this…one namely who wore WHITE to her SISTER’S wedding.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Ugh – this is a universal problem, I think…what really got me when this happened to us was the couple who had just gotten married themselves recently who didn’t bother to RSVP. When we called them about it she just said “Oh, we assumed you’d know that we’re coming!”

Can memory possibly be that short? I could understand if we’d messed up sending our RSVP to their wedding on time, but that wasn’t the case.

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