Post # 16
The venue just said I can push back final numbers to the 18th. So I’ll start individually messaging people end of next week. But I agree with PP, it does feel weird. Like I’m “correcting you” or something.
Post # 17
I feel that way about texts.
Post # 18
impatient1 : annoying. Not a single RSVP I had to track down said yes, which is annoying only because despite the fact this is the most likely outcome you’re still left tracking them down just in case. If at least one said “oh, yeah! I totally am coming I thought I’d RSVPd sorry” then at least you’d feel like it was worth the trouble.
Post # 19
Our venue has a super early deadline to confirm numbers as well.
Wedding is Mid-November and i just sent the RSVPs with a Mid-September deadline, the numbers are due the first week of Oct, but I needed to give myself time to follow up with people before the first week of Oct.
I don’t understand why people do this either. Don’t know how ours will turn out yet, but I am assuming we will be tracking down a lot of people in his family.
Post # 20
I also did evites and used paperless post for mine. Same experience as you- tons of people didn’t respond in a timely manner. Luckily it’s so easy to send a mass message out requesting RSVPs or if that’s too direct for you send another message like “please don’t forget to add your plus ones!” Or “just to clarify, dress code is x” just to jog their memory to respond. Inevitably though there will be people who just don’t freaking respond. You’ll have to reach out personally to them. Good luck! You’re not alone lol!
Post # 21
I kind of get why people don’t mail something back it’s like if I have to pay bill if I can pay it online I do it but if I have to mail it in I forget. But having RSVP online and everyone is online in some form now days unless it’s an older person they should have done it. I’m dreading this myself as I’m not on Facebook and I’m expecting most of my side of the family to be the ones not doing there rsvp.
Post # 22
I get that, but I don’t know how to have made it any easier. RSVP site or return address on the invite. Use your preferred method, just use A method.
Just got the RSVP for the no-tech couple. It was postmarked the middle of July, well before the deadline. So they didn’t do anything wrong.
Everyone else though…
Post # 23
Posted a reminder on the site. One friend RSVP’d yes. A few who had already rsvp’d re rsvp’d. Fiancé’s friends had apparently already rsvp’d no and I didn’t get it. I messaged a few friends who have seen the message and not replied. Messaging a family member now. Fiancé still has to call two family members.
Why is this complicated?