(Closed) RSVP RANT — Anyone else??

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I agree it’s annoying! People can be so extremely rude, it’s okay to be annoyed for a while but remember to move forward… I hate the maybe rsvp like really we are having a wedding in Las Vegas you can either go or you can’t lol.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

That would piss me off so much. Almost to the point where I want to call them and uninvite them completely for being such an asshole TWO WEEKS AWAY. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

omg- we had a maybe too! it’s a cousin of the FH who lives hours away and would need to organise transport AND babysitting… so we just assumed no, and will deal with it if they attend (I’d rather have plans and change them, than hold everything else up for this one couple). I assume we’re date twins then? 7th Jan?

We also have FH’s grandfather who is in a nursing home and is rarely allowed out for day trips tell us he’s coming… no idea who is taking him there or home, though! I’ve been told not to worry, so I’m trying!

My favourites are all of the people ‘offering’ to come to our ceremony… we have the smallest wedding we could get away with while not making any enemies within our families, and whilst obviously that makes the budget happy, we are also both so shy that speaking in front of more people scares the hell out of us! I’m yet to find a polite way to say no and have just been avoiding giving venue details away… I kind of thought people would be happy seeing photos afterwards :-/

Hopefully you get it sorted soon! I’m sure as the day gets closer, we will have other fun things to chat about 🙂

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Are you going to allow these people to bring these randomers to your wedding?

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We had a small wedding and I didn’t give my four nephews (all brothers) plus ones. One couldn’t make it, so another nephew brought his room mate as a guest. I wish he would have asked, but I guess he assumed that since I reserved so many seats for them, he could bring someone as a replacement. It was fine until my older sister (their mom) kept pulling the friend into our family photos. Good thing he was on the end because I had him cropped out.

If it were a long time family friend that would have been fine, but not some stranger I don’t know. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space

““We’re making it a girls trip and bringing a couple friends!”

They’re all bad, but that one kills me!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Sorry OP! That is indeed frustrating. I’d be clear with everyone, but that’s me and I don’t care about hurting feelings over stuff like this. I totally understand being done with the wedding drama, I was there too! But I think of it like this – I won’t hold a grudge about you trying to +1 if you don’t hold a grudge over my saying no.

We had two people bring their toddlers without asking, even though it was an adult only event. I didn’t let it bother me because what can you do, but I felt bad because I specifically told those who did ask that we didn’t have room for small children. And apparently my new grandmother-in-law spent the entire night complaining about how their little (read, quiet) toddler noises ruined the ceremony for her. I only found out that little cloud of negativity after the wedding, thank goodness.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Sept 2016 Venice, Italy

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stevielee :  “I’m not bringing my spouse, I’m bringing by daughter instead!” LOL I have a variation on this. Instead of my husband can I bring a cousin you haven’t seen in decades, who you don’t have a relationship with, to a multi-course sit down dinner in Venice?

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017

It’s T-minus 19 days. I had to do a face to face with my boss who ignored my text message directly asking if she was going to attend a week ago. She texted me later on and just neglected to ever address my very polite but direct question! lol. People these days, I really think it’s great if people can make it awesome, but why is it so hard for people to just say no I won’t be able to make it. It doesn’t hurt my feelings if they can’t, it’s more of a pain in the butt to be expecting a larger crowd making accomodations for people who can’t commit. But it was fun to mention to her oh and by the way I’m so sorry you won’t be able to make it, but I get to meet Britney Spears at a meet and greet the night before my ceremony because my awesome brother in law hooked that up and see that FOMO kick her right in the butt. (Fear of Missing Out). We also have a really spectacular in suite reception too, but I do not feel bad at all and am thankful that I’m not having to pay extra for people who say that they are coming, or give a maybe and then never show. Also if people show up that have not been invited or run past me, they will have to deal with my mom I’m not going to pretend to know people I don’t. 🙂 In the end though, I will just be happy to be married and will laugh it all off and realize that it will be funny and be memorable. 

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