(Closed) RSVP rate, and how many stayed at 'your' resort?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have no advice, but wow thats a large destination wedding lol 

Do the guests have to pay their own way?  I assume so right..

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Thats a hefty guest list,  Were doing a Destination Wedding stateside.  We invited 46, 24 accepted.  Only 2 are staying in the same hotel as us.  But no fees for guests.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@houstonwhodat:  We are having a destination and invited about 90 people. We have 56 people confirm and book and are expecting maybe about 10 more to book in the coming year. We could have invited over 100 but cut the list down alot. When I tell people the number of people we have coming they are actually shocked since you only hear of destionation wedgins with 20 or 30 people. When do you plan on having the wedding? That might determine how many people are able to come. I have a bunch of teacher friends who are not able to make it because our wedding is in April and they cant get time off of work.

I forgot to add that everyone who is coming will be staying at the same resort as we got an amazing group rate 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I really doubt that amount of people would show up. I been to several destiantion weddings and I think the biggest was 45. Because of the cost there are higher numbers of people rsvping no. Although if you invite that amount people you may still have a good amount who make it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We were in the same position, with my FMIl giving us a massive guest list! We ended up inviting 187, and we have 40 people coming. Although the list looks huge, only people who are really close to you guys are likely to bother coming, and in my experience, a lot of your friends will want to make it, but it won’t be in the budget for them. Oh yeah, and all of our guests are staying at our resort.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Our Destination Wedding was in Jamaica.  We invited a little over 100 guests (I think 114 or something) and 65 showed up!  They ALL stayed at our resort as I made it very clear that if they stayed elsewhere we would only pay for a day pass for the day of the wedding.  Guests would miss out on all our other events if they stayed elsewhere and no one wanted to do that so they did the right thing and stayed at our resort.

If you are really concerned, you could privately discuss the issue with people implying they may stay elsewhere.  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

One thing you might consider doing is sending out a newsletter with all the unique details of your Destination Wedding. Explain that staying in your reserved hotel rooms is required by the venue, lest you be charged an extra fee, and then (fudge the truth a little), and say that you will need each guest’s confirmation number 4 or 6 weeks prior to the wedding. If you’re wedding date is very far out, it may also be possible to send out “Pre-RSVPs” to see how many people already know for certain they won’t be able to make it.  

Post # 12
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643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Don’t worry. We ended up having to invite both our families and our guest list went to around 200 people. 40 people are coming to Mexico with us, and my family tends to have the money to do those kinds of things, and we are quite close. 

We just worded our wedding website clearly so that people knew we weren’t expecting everyone to come. We said that we understood that a destination wedding is expensive and we will be having low-key BBQs in our hometowns when we get back and that we don’t want anyone to feel pressured to attend a wedding they can’t afford. 

Edited to add: everyone is staying at our resort. We sent invitations with a link to our wedding website, where we had information about flight and hotel packages put together by our travel agent. We made it clear that it’s the resort policy that wedding guests should be staying at that resort and we have had no problems with that so far.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We invited 50 and are expecting 20-25, so around 50%. All are staying at our resort.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@houstonwhodat:  i think quite often the couple doesnt pay for guest passes do they? that seems to be what it says etiquette wise on best destination wedding forum (awesome Destination Wedding wedding website!)

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