(Closed) RSVP response’s

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I started getting the RSVPs back within the week I sent out the invites.  By the actual RSVP deadline I had about 80%.  Over the next few days a few more trickled in. In the end there were about 10% that never sent them and I had to track them down via e-mail or phone.

I don’t know why people are so rude.  The most shocking thing- 2 of the couples that never bothered to RSVP had gotten married in the previous 2 months!  They should know what pain it is to have track people down!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Mine starting coming in the week I sent them as well.

 However, tomorrow is my rsvp date and out of 75 mailed, I am waiting on 17… and most are family!!!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We started receiving responses about 3 days after they were sent out (thanks, grandma!). By the RSVP deadline, we had 2/3 in, so we called and emailed those people that weekend. (We had a blist and needed to know if they could be invited or not.) We still have outstanding responses from the A-list, and those RSVPs were due back on July 26. Some people we just couldn’t track down (not for lack of trying), so we marked them as declines.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My first arrived 3 days after I mailed the invites and they stopped coming about the week they were due in. I still had to track down non respoders though.

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I started getting my rsvps back within 2 days of mailing them. My deadline is September 4th and have only received 40% back. My fiancee and I are seriously considering marking the "non-responders" as no. I truly think its so rude not to rsvp, you have a pre-stamped envelope, how hard is it to fill it out and pop it in the mail. I’m busy enough without having to track people down to see if they are coming. Very frustrating.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I sent out my invites on Saturday and started receiving responses on Tuesday.  All are yes so far.  The no’s always seem to be the stragglers.  I do agree its severly rude not to reply by the response date to a wedding.  Most people should know that.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We mailed our invitations on Friday and got our first RSVP Sunday – some friends dropped it by the house!  We got 3 or 4 a day for the next few weeks, and had all but 12 of them (out of almost 200 people invited) by the deadline.  A few of those were apparently mailed right on the deadline, as they came in the next week.  A few we never got.  Most we tracked down by phone, but I think we had three we never managed to contact.  They didn’t show…

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We sent our invites out on Thursday of last week and got the first response back on Saturday!  I don’t know how she did it short of driving the RSVP to my house! 

In just a weeks time we have already had 20 people respond, I was quite suprised.

still have a month left for RSVP’s to come in, although we have placed our bets as to whom we will have to call.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I sent my invitations last Thursday and have received two responses so far… I’m doing email RSVPs, which will hopefully be easier.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I sent mine on a Friday, and got 2 back the following Tuesday, then got about 4 or 5 a day for like 3 weeks, this week has really slowed down, we still have 2 weeks left before the deadline. We’ve received about 60% of them back. I think the beginning ones were the ones who knew for sure if they were coming or not. The others have to decide and then also some of my fiance’s friends who are probably just lazy

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Mine all finally went out last week.  I got my first RSVP on Tuesday from Seattle – I’m in NY.  I expect to have to call/email people who won’t send their cards back.

I must defend the poor RSVP’ers out there… My cousin got married in June and I totally forgot to send the RSVP back.  I’ve been in the full swing of wedding planning since spring.  It’s not because I didn’t want to make a decision or anything, it just slipped my mind.  Remember not everyone is as organized as they’d like to or even should be.  And some of us are just procrastinators.  We love our friends and relatives still, we just have to say I’m sorry alot for being so absentminded.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We set up an online RSVP and got the first response one day after the invitations mailed, thanks to a speedy local post office.  However, by the RSVP deadline, only 60% had responded.  We’re still waiting on an official response from some family who I suppose just assumed we’d hear through the grape vine.  Our parents responded, why can’t they?  *sigh*

We’re remaining calm and have set the moms on the case for nonresponders.  Within 24 hours, my Mom had 4 responses.  Sometimes, people just need a reminder that RSVP does mean an action is requested.  🙂 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

ours was RSVP by email or phone, and people started phoning as soon as they got it (and it was fun catching up) and it was very quick to get everyone’s response. however, from what I’ve heard from other people, if you only give the response card as an option, you will get stragglers.

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