Post # 1
Our wedding is being hosted largely by my father and stepfather, and my fiance and I will pay for everything above and beyond that. I don’t want either of my dads to have to deal with the responses as they come in.
In a perfect world, we would list ourselves as the return address on the invitation envelope and also on the mailing address for the RSVP envelope. However, it’s not a perfect world, as we don’t know for certain where we’re going to be living when our invitations are mailed.
We live in an apartment and our lease is up at the end of January. We’ve been actively looking for a house but haven’t had much success in finding “the one.” So, it’s possible that we’ll renew our lease for another year, which we’ll have to do so by the end of December. However, it’s also possible that we’ll find a house between now and the end of December, in which case we’ll be living there at the time our invitations are mailed in early February.
Which address should we print on our envelopes?
If we use our current address and we don’t move, then we have no worries.
If we use our current address and we move, then we have to deal with mail forwarding for the responses, which could be a nightmare.
Neither my dad nor my stepdad lives near us, and my fiance’s father lives pretty close. We thought about using his address, but isn’t that a slight to my own dads? Is it appropriate to use our names and his address?
Post # 3
what about getting a PO box?
Post # 4
i agree, a p.o.box would probably be the best option.
Post # 5
I would only send them to your father or stepfather if you know they would be willing to keep track of the responses for you. If not, you could always use your current address. We have moved a few times and have never had a problem with mail forwarding except for the fact that it does take a little longer than normal mail. A PO box like JoJo suggested might be a good idea. Or could you wait a little longer before ordering the invitations to see if you get a new address?
Post # 6
What about a close friend? I didn’t take my Maid/Matron of Honor up on her offer, but she did offer to keep track of responses to lighten the load. See if you can’t recruit outside help.
Post # 7
I was thinking a PO Box would be a good idea too!
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
PO box is probably your best bet!
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Definitely a PO Box. You are the person best equipped to track RSVPs, and it’s not going to be easy to pick them up from your father or step-father. I don’t necessarily think it’s a slight to them to put your FI’s father, but it might be a hassle for you. Pick an address that can stay consistent for as long as you need it to… the mail forwarding through USPS is pretty unreliable if you need things in a hurry.
Post # 10
I agree with the Bee’s… get a PO box.. then it doesn’t matter if you move a million times – you’ll always get your mail 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks, Bees! That’s a great idea.