Post # 1
So I’m getting nervous, my “due-date” for the RSVP cards is this Friday (June 14th)
We sent out 104 invitations and we have only heard back from 48 of them, and we’ve already sent digital reminders or verbal reminders to almost all of the ones who said nothing.
Is this normal? Should I be worried? I’m getting really worried because so far for the PEOPLE breakdown its:
188 No Answer Yet
=/ I’m getting really anxious. I’m accepting RSVP by almost every way possible, it was supposed to be by card or online to the website. I’ve accepted RSVPs given Verbally to my FMIL, My facebook page, Email, Website, Verbally at my shower and a few cards. I’m being very accomodating but its freaking me out that with almost an endless amount of ways to respond, people still haven’t done so.
FMIL tells me to “not worry” that everyone is waiting to the last day, but I’m having a hard time picturing that >.<
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
That is a lot that are missing…. We had a bunch, maybe 10%, that we hadn’t heard of by our deadline. There were still a few people who STILL have not responded. (Nor did they come.) You’re lucky though, in that you have a month between your deadline and the actual wedding. Wait until the Monday after the deadline (just in case people stick them in the mail that day) and then start calling. You, FI, your mom, FMIL, everyone. And don’t be afraid to tell people that if you don’t have a response in, say, a week, you unfortunately have to assume they’re not coming because you have to give numbers to the caterer.
Post # 4
agree, you are going to have to start calling everyone
so rude that people don’t respond. i can’t understand it.
Post # 5
I was missing 2 RSVPs (for 5 people altogether) out of 80 invites. That seems high!
Post # 6
71 invites (~140 invited), and we only had to track one or two down here in the US. Few of our overseas guests RSVP’d, but we knew going in who was coming and who wasn’t. That was about 14 invites.
Post # 7
@soontobeMrsBoo: So it seems I’m an abnormality?? Goodness I hope they start to flood in like there is no tomorrow.
There’s some people that I’ve spoken to and said “hey, you know the deadline’s Fridya right?” and they go “Oh, I just assumed you knew I was coming” O.o what if all those other people are thinking the same thing?!?!
…Sigh… I’ll have to call starting Monday, boo…..
Post # 8
@Elky; We had about 20% that waited until the very last second. I started calling and texting people a couple of days but they were due, and it took until 2 days after the RSVPs to get a hold of everyone.
If it helps, break up the list of people to call. Your fiance and parents should call his side. Your parents can help you with your side.
Good luck! It’s a super stressful time… but you’ll get through it!
Post # 9
@Lori2026: Yeah I wouldn’t know how to contact most of my FI’s side of the list, I don’t even have the phone or email for his groomsmen other than his brother and my brother =/
I tried to ask my FMIL to find out about her family and she just thinks I need to wait.
I told my parents the names of all the guests on our side that are missing responses and then I mass facebooked the ones I had on there just saying “hey! Just a reminder RSVP due date is Friday!” that got 10 more. Dad was going to call a particular Uncle to let him know Cousin wasn’t coming so it was “safe” for him to show up (stupid family rifts) and my Mom was calling all her friends and talking to her coworkers she invited. Its just odd that after all that pre-calling/talking we only got 15 more total =/
Monday we’ll have to tell them the “Need a response by X date or you will not have a seat” it sucks, but it seems its the only way.
Post # 10
@Elky ; Yeah, it’s super sucky! We did end up telling a couple of people “if we don’t hear from you by x date, we will have to assume you cannot make it.”
When are your total numbers due to the reception hall? If your FMIL doesnt already know, tell her they’re due next week, and then I’m sure she’ll help!
Post # 11
On friday, your response % might be the same as PPs. you seem pretty anxious considering your deadline hasn’t even passed yet. It’s probably a bit rude that you’ve been tracking down all your rsvps before they even had a chance to respond by the deadline. Sadly, hounding everybody before your deadline might mean you get a lower RSVP rate because word might spread that you’re contacting all invitees to personally get their rsvps. You should wait until next Wednesday before contacting guests.
I don’t get why so many brides want and expect rsvps before the deadlines they set themselves.
Post # 12
I’d tell them you’d also like your $3 back for the card, self-addressed envelope, and stamp. I don’t understand why it’s so hard to be courteous and send back an RSVP, especially when you’ve done all the work and made it 100% easy for them.
Good luck with getting the rest!