(Closed) RSVP saddness.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

is your wedding scheduled on a local holiday or something?

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would start calling people and asking very politely that you havent recieved their RSVP and you were hoping they didnt lose it in the mail and you were just following up. SInce its all friends and family they should understand!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

people wait till last minute trust me, mine were due yesterday and I got like 25 back they couldn’t fit them all in my mailbox. I bet I have more in there today too. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My RSVP date was last Friday and I’m missing 5.  I only sent 22.  One came in the mail yesterday, so I’m hoping a few more people thought “Oh crap that was today!” and put them in the mail on Friday.  I will start calling tomorrow or Thursday.  πŸ™‚  One couple we know for sure can’t come since they’ll be out of the country, so I think that’s why they didn’t bother to mail it.  So at least I have yet to receive a “no” in the mail.  πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Awwww πŸ™  Nooooo don’t worry.  I’m sure people will start RSVPing soon.  I hear most people wait ’til the last minute anyway. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ugh I’m sorry.  I’m having a semi-destination wedding and only about half of the people I was expecting are coming.  I didn’t want a huge wedding but I always thought it would be a little larger. 

I did get several RSVPS the week before and after the RSVP deadline.  Some people didn’t put the cards in the mail until the deadline and for some reason, it was taking the post office about a week to deliver them.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

don’t start calling until after the deadline and don’t do the calling yourself.  I enlisted my bridal party and they enlisted their partners and everyone else.  They took care of the no responses in one night.

the reason why you don’t want to call yet is because the deadline has not passed.  the reason why you don’t want to call yourself, is you don’t want to make those who cannot come feel bad.  makes it awkward for both.  i’ve heard some people tell the bride yes and then not show up because they didn’t know how to answer when put on the spot.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I aint calling no one, if they didn’t send it back then they ain’t coming in my book. If they forgot to send it in they can call me. πŸ™‚ So I agree don’t call no one it will just be awkward. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@HappilyEverAfter54:  Hang in there, you haven’t even hit your RSVP due date yet, I’ll be you’ll get a lot of them postmarked that day or the day after.  People tend to freak out.

I got a call today from someone whose RSVP due date isn’t for another 2 weeks and I’d mailed mine Monday and was pretty annoyed to get a call at work.  I know it’s hard not to be anxious, but give it until about 2 days after the due date before calling people and getting worried.  You’ll get plenty of yes responses and people are slow sometimes.  And although as a bride-to-be I get the anxious feeling, as a guest it’s irritating to be called before the deadline even hits.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@Jamie42003:  Totally disagree.  What will be awkward is if people forget to RSVP (b/c admittedly they are the ones being rude) but then show up at the wedding and not have anywhere to sit!  Yes they are definitely in the wrong, but I think for the bride’s peace of mind she should start making phone calls once the RSVP deadline has passed.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mine are due this Friday, I’m still missing 65 responses! I run and check the mail box everyday, it’s so disappointing when there isn’t any. I thought for sure this week I’d get a ton, so far I’ve gotten 2. I understand your pain. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@HappilyEverAfter54:  We actually had a lot of ours come in after the “deadline.” Ultimately, we had to call the remaining people. Also, it turned out that several of the invites never made it to their destinations at all! I had to scan and email a few of them lol.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Awkward for them not me. Sorry I’m kinda ruthless, but I spent the money on a stamp all you have to do is write your name and check a box, a first grader can do it. 

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