(Closed) RSVP & Save the Date etiquette

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Hostess
3381 posts
Sugar bee

@thisisbrucebanner:  you don’t need STDs at all so can forgo them, I wouldn’t email – just leave that all together.  And, no you don’t need an RSVP reply card either, though I would provide more than just a web address so I’d add phone number and postal address. People are grown-ups they can work out how to RSVP the old fashioned way – off their own backs – no need for fancy cards.

Post # 4
Member
29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We went the website route for rsvp’s but did have printed invites. Agreed with the other poster that you might also want to add a phone # so they can rsvp that way.

Post # 5
Member
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If your guests are local, skip the STDs.  We’re only doing them because we’ve got people coming from across the country.  Agree with PPs, give them a phone # to RSVP to as well.

 

Post # 6
Member
12624 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’t need to send the STDs.

As for online RSVPs – I’m not a fan, at all.  Some people love it, but honestly, I forget.  If I don’t have a checkbox on an envelope to leave on my counter, I won’t remember to RSVP and I’ll be the guest every bride hates.

Post # 7
Member
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

you don’t NEED std’s and honestly you may care but your guests could care less. even after the invites were sent out i still had my friends asking me so whens the wedding again?? hahah but that’s my friends~

ALot of people do cute e std’s like from ping that are free and you can add your own personal touch w a cute engagement pic upload or something.

Personally I think invitations and std’s are the biggest waste of money because I know no one will keep it and treasure it.. tehy will say cute invite and throw it away..

Post # 8
Member
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with PP’s.  If you want the letterpress invite, then scratch the RSVP card and Save the Date.  However, I would then expect more people to RSVP “no” if they aren’t planning early for an August wedding (busy summer and wedding month) and also expect to have to hunt more people down.

I’d include a website, email address and phone number to RSVP. 

Post # 9
Member
3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am going to a wedding on Saturday that had emailed save the dates and online RSVPs. It worked great for them because they only had a 6 month engagement and are having a small, laid back wedding. We mailed save the dates to all non-coworkers and will do both mail and online RSVPs. For me, the invites are important to set the tone. I’d rather mail printed directions than have people lost trying to find our wedding website.

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