Post # 17
I second naangel55 – – From the title of this post I thought your Bridesmaid or Best Man rsvp’d that she wasn’t going to be able to make it…As for the calling – I am making my sister who is also my Maid/Matron of Honor call for me, I’ll be to irritated at those that couldn’t send in their rsvp’s. Plus my sister is 10 older than me so I think they’ll appreciate her tone much more than mine, haahaahaahaa
Post # 18
@ ddub: I’m pretty doubtful if there is a gift involved in the equation when she can’t be bothered to checkmark the “regrets” box and drop a card in the mail.
@bella: that just madde me even more sure that I will be calling to check. Can’t assume the non-responders are a “no”, clearly! Yikes!
@linz: admitting your problem is the first step to recovery, right? You’ve turned over a new leaf!
Thanks for the support, ladies. I was flabbergasted. This is a girl I’ve been besties with since we were 14. She is not a rude person at all – that’s why I was so shocked and thought this may be a common thing I was unaware of. I appreciate you making me feel un-nuts 🙂
Post # 19
@ jackie: I tried to sidestep the Maid/Matron of Honor thing, but if I had a Maid/Matron of Honor, she’d be it, so the thought of her making those calls: priceless! Hahaha!
Post # 20
Get her to help you make the calls
Post # 21
I would definitely call the people! Otherwise its ambiguous whether they are coming or not. I’d rather be obnoxious and call then have surprise extra guests on the day of …
Post # 22
that’s awful, people are paying good money for her food, drinks, cake, etc. and putting a lot of time into making escort cards, favors, etc.
we called. we called and called and called and emailed and called some more. i didn’t want people showing up that didn’t rsvp and they wouldn’t have a seat, or give them a seat and waste all of that money and time on them.
Post # 23
I agree with MissCremeBrulee, I usually call or email my RSVP with a note as to why I can’t attend and how dissapointed I won’t be there. On another note, I did forget to RSVP to my MOH’s wedding. She called me like a week before, asking me jokingly if I was coming – ha, ha.
Post # 24
it’s really bad etiquette to not reply at all. but pretty typical, i’m assuming. if i am missing replies, i’ll be SURE to call. i don’t care how crazy it looks, because i’m the one spending the money on a plate and a chair for them.
Post # 25
@artbee- did you end up with any extras the day of? (Congrats btw!!)
Post # 26
If my reply is No, not only do I mail the RSVP card back with No written, I also call the bride (or groom) and apologize.
Post # 27
ooh, I’ve been guilty of that too. In fact, I’m pretty bad at sending those things back at all. So I’ll have a lot of grace for my guests, I guess. 🙂
I’m one of those people who facebooks/emails/calls/texts to reply. Or if I’m out of the country I sometimes just don’t respond, because I assume they know I’m not coming. Well, that’s not totally true – I usually try to email, and catch up at bit at the same time.
Post # 28
You will not be called a psycho bride if you called people who don’t RSVP. Fiance had to call about 30 people and I had to call about 10 people who didn’t respond.
My suggestion: Make this non-responding Bridesmaid or Best Man call the non responders when the time comes for you to have your final head count. I think this will teach her a very valuable lesson about responding to invites! LOL!
Post # 29
i always respond, at least by calling or email if i dont send the actual paper RSVP in when its a no, since i like to explain.
although i have been to two weddings that the response card just had “we are reserving X in your honor, please rsvp by X” and there was no spot to say “declined” or anything. so im thinking in that case there were people that just didnt send the RSVP back because they thought they might be committing to it when in fact they couldnt go?
Post # 30
You aren’t a psycho bride. If people don’t send their RSVP back, how are you to know if they lost it, forgot about it, are waiting to find out if they can make it? When my RSVP deadline passes, I’ll be contacting all the people who didn’t return their card.
Post # 31
I am guilty of not sending back RSVP cards before. Now after doing this all myself, I would never do it again!