(Closed) RSVP situation help most definitely needed

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What about writing each name on the invite on a separate line, and then next to the name leave a check box for yes or a check box for no?

Post # 5
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

how about “we have reserved  (or how many you give them) seats in your honor”  although i do like adding the name option but that could be time consuming

Post # 6
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You could put

____ of _____(with number written by you in advance) will be attending

Post # 7
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I like thw we reserved 2 seats in your honour.  My Dads like your family and he probably wouldn’t get it. We are just having a late lunch so I told my mom if we run out of food because he inviteted the whole town he is ordering late nigt pizza.

Post # 8
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I used the “___ seats have been reserved in your honor” option. I think it’s clear without being tacky.

Post # 9
11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@x0gabiicak3z:  Unfortunately, the wording you would like use isn’t consistent with proper wedding etiquette and would be considered impolite.

The very best way to control who will respond to your invitation is to use inner envelopes that clearly state who is being invited.

If you address the outer envelope of your invitation to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (or, Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith, or whatever would be appropriate for the couple in question) and then clearly list on the inner envelope exactly who is invited: Mr. and Mrs. Smith (or Ms. Doe and Mr. Smith), it’s exceptionally clear that only two people are being invited to your wedding.

The wording for the response cards would be:


____ will attend

____ unable to attend

If the Smiths’ RSVP shows up with their names and a simple checkmark beside “will attend,” then you can presume that two people will be attending.  If, however, the Smiths’ decide to write the number 6 next to “will attend,” or if they write the names of additional people who were not invited, you would simply call a member of this couple and kindly explain that, unfortunately, the invitation was extended only to the two of them, and that, as much as you would love to be able to share your special day with others, it’s just not possible.

Post # 10
44 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

@x0gabiicak3z:  Well, on the RSVP card you could have a note at the bottom stating something like “this affair is limited to adult only” (helps eliminate kids and/or partygoers w/kids).

Then, you could have a line that says ____ of ____ will be attending OR “Please list names of attendees” but only provide the number of lines you are willing to extend as invites. That way, you actually have names of people who, if they bring more than what is listed on the RSVP, you can go harrass about bringing too many people! Laughing Well, maybe not YOU harrass, but say your Maid/Matron of Honor or MOB/MOG?

Post # 13
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Most people do something like this:

“We have reserved ___ seats in your honour”

You fill in the blank (in PEN!) before you send it out. That way they know how many the “max” is, without saying it outright/rudely.

Post # 14
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Brielle:  HAHAHAHAHA!

NO ONE in their right mind reads the horror stories on this site about guests inviting extras & doesn’t put in a “___ seats have been reserved in your honour”/”___ out of ___ will be attending” line in their RSVPs. Also, inner envelopes are wasteful.

Besides, according to traditional etiquette, you’re not supposed to include response cards at all — guests are supposed to write a letter themselves, either accepting or declining the invitation, and use their own money to buy a stamp. But that doesn’t happen anymore either now, does it?

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