(Closed) RSVP timeline

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It is early, but your venue is requiring a final count 30 days out, which is also really early. Our venue requires 2 weeks and rehearsal dinner caterer 10 days, so 30 days seams really early to me. But what can you do? If I were you, I would leave the date as is – you will need at least 1 week to get in touch with the stragglers who can’t rsvp.


Post # 4
2712 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmm… that does seem early to me, but it’s not too bad.  I think it’s weird that caterers need a full 30 days to plan.  I would try talking to your venue to see if they really need it at that time, or if you can wait until 2 weeks before the wedding to give the final headcount.  If they can’t, then I’d just keep your date.  You’ll probably have more straggelers, but there’s not much you can do.  We also gave ourselves a 10 day gap to hunt down RSVPS and it was the right amount of time.


Post # 5
13014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, that’s really early.  My caterer only needed the final head count 7-10 days out.  But, if you need to give htem 30 days, then I guess there’s nothing you can do about it!

My wedding was 3/16, and we had our deadline as 2/16 – mailed the invitations about 1/16.  We gave ourselves two weeks to track down missing RSVPs and then get final numbers to everyone who needed them. 

Post # 6
9578 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s a little early, but not bad.  Mine are due 1 month before (4 weeks) our wedding.  Our venue requires a final count 30 days out.  My caterer doesn’t have a final count until the Monday before.

Post # 7
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LullabelleK:  I don’t think this should be a problem.  Our RSVP date is August 7th.  If anyone isn’t able to make it, then we can still send out our B list of guests.

My venue doesn’t require the headcount.  I did the early RSVP more for the B listers.


Post # 8
3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LullabelleK:  you’re fine. you’re basing it on your venue’s requirements, which is what you have to do.

our venue also wants our head count 30 days early – sept 18 for an oct 12 wedding. so i set our RSVP date to august 31 so i had time to hunt down non responders.

Post # 9
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I don’t think it’s a problem either, considering your venue’s requirements. And it’s smart to build in a bit of time to track people down.

Post # 11
8694 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LullabelleK:  it’s early, but if that what your venue dictates, you have to work backwards from that.

for me:

wedding 10/19

caterering number due 10/11

rsvp due 10/1  (leaving me 10 days to track down non-responders)

9/4  hotel room block expires

8/1 sending invitations so people have 1 month to make reservations.

i am sending my invitations 2 months in advance of the RSVP due date.


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