(Closed) RSVP trouble!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1699 posts
Bumble bee

IVe noticed this trend to using an “R.s.v.p. card” that just contains addresses and instructions. I can see how it would cause this kind of problem. If you could go back in time, I’d advise you to use the traditional format of simply writing:

R.s.v.p. (555) 123-4567
or [email protected]

in the lower left corner of the invitation proper. That way it cannot get thrown out accidentally. Since you cannot go back in time, you can comfort yourself with two thoughts:

1) At least other bees who are planning to use website and phone responses can learn from your experience and also save themselves the cost and inelegance of an extra enclosure card. And

2) your own guests who can’t figure out how to empty an envelope, or what you meant by that extra card; will no doubt phone your mother to complain, or phone you, or write proper little notes to your return address on your outer envelope, or just not R.s.v.p. because they wouldn’t have done so anyway and you’ll have to phone and track them down just as you would have had to do anyway.

It will all work out.

Post # 4
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Going back through your list and reaching out to everyone personally. It sucks, I know — we had to do it too, but just because people chose NOT to RSVP. But at the end of the day, even if they DO rsvp, it doesn’t actually mean they’re going to show up. We had people RSVP yes that didn’t show up, and people that RSVP’d no or nothing at all who did show up.

Best of Luck!

Post # 6
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

It wouldnt have mattered if you’d have sent an 8X10 with full instructions.  There are always going to be several who misplace it or forget or dont see it.  In the end, every bride I know has to end up calling to follow up–welcome to the 21st century!

Post # 7
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@ju1244: Haha, you’re right!  You could send a marching band by some people’s houses and offer them candy and strippers if they RSVP but there are still some cards that you just ain’t getting back. 🙂

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