(Closed) RSVP VENT!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MissMoose091011: I hear ya – it is definitely extremely frustrating but you are not on your own! 

Our deadline was also the 1st and we have 22 people to track down.  I’m finding that most of the people that aren’t RSVPing yet either don’t know if they will have a date (ugh! its not a party people!) or they have no balls to say that they cannot come. 

Hang in there!  When these people get married, you should do the same thing to them, see how they stress out! Wink Give them a taste of their own medicine!

 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh yeah, I hear you, too.  We had 20 people to track down, still, a few days after the deadline.  I waited about 3-4 days before I began asking people, and many came in the mail at that time.  I know it’s frustrating no matter what, but I’d be willing to bet a bunch of people mailed yours yesterday, ON the deadline. Give ’em a day or two, then call or e-mail.  It’ll save you a few of them, at least.  If people don’t get back to you when you call/e-mail, have  a mutual friend or family member call them.  We had one couple who would NOT get back to us (we texted, e-mailed, FB messaged) and a mutual friend offered to check in with him.  He got a text back within the hour saying that no, they couldn’t attend due to a scheduling conflict with a family event.  I was like, ok, why couldn’t they have just TOLD us that? We totally understand! Ugh. 

In regard to “and guest”, that definitely happened to me. Again, I had to call or e-mail.  The ones that made me most mad were when people crossed out the number I’d written in the “We’ve reserved ____ seats in your honor” and wrote in a new number, adding a guest.  It happened MORE than once.  What!? 

 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MissMoose091011: I can tell you now that I will be able to relate to this post in a week. Our deadline is the 8th, today is the 3rd, and we have just over HALF of our 100 invitation’s rsvp’s back. HALF. And most of ours I can tell you now are people who say “I don’t know who I want to bring” … then talk to our other friends that are coming and go alone! I guarantee you’ll still have fun! UGH!

and @MDbride2011: nice date! 😉

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MissMoose091011: It actually was not too bad, took a few calls and things and most of the people were nos.  But yeah, I feel the same as you, just don’t come then if it is so hard to make up your mind! 

We did literally have someone say “my dog ate my invitation.”  The phone was on speaker and I just rolled my eyes lol, back to grade school!  I mean seriously, if your dog did eat your invitation, wouldn’t you call us to explain and RSVP via phone?!? I would have been more than happy to mail him another invitation since we had a bunch of extras.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@nmeyer01: Thanks!  It’s a pretty awesome date Laughing

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m with you, OP. Be thankful you have that many who HAVE responded.  I’m still missing over 100 responses, and even though I’ve texted/emailed/facebook messaged a bunch of people to ask them, only two have responded from that.  My guests are apparently super rude. Plus, I just had a couple who had RSVP’d already change their RSVP.  SO FRUSTRATING. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can relate – mine was the 1st as well, and had 41 people MISSING as of that day!

I managed to track down a few, but am still waiting for 25 people. I’ve give 6 people extensions (due to invites being sent later), but that’s it.

Oh and I even told a few people that weren’t sure about +1’s to just rsvp for themselves and touchbase with me by August 20th if they want to bring someone (and I planned to follow up with them that day too). Of course they still can’t bother getting the damn rsvp back.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

BAHAHAHAHHAAH! Oh, I know how you feel! RSVPS are due tomorrow and we still havent heard from 21 people!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think the kicker for me, is we’re missing a few RSVP’s of people who JUST GOT MARRIED LESS THAN A YEAR AGO. Like they don’t remember how frustrating it was?! RUDE! hahah

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My wedding is the same date as yours–Sept 17–and my deadline for RSVPs isn’t until Sept 1 (it isn’t due to the venue until Sept 9).  Why is yours so far out? That could be why people aren’t RSVPing in a timely manner…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think its better to set your cut-off date early.  This way you can assign your tables, know how many centerpieces you need, etc.

Most people send out Save-The-Date Cards, so why do guests need more than 4 WEEKS to decide if they want to come to your wedding or not??  Really, I mean the postage is already on the envelope for you, just drop it in the mail! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

LOL. We are just now getting our RSVPs back, and I tried to make it as brainless as possible (wrote in every person’s name who is invited with a check box “will attend” or “will not attend”). They still have a month to respond, so we’ll see who we have to harass at the end of the month.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I told my guys listen… I need to know the name of the gal you’re bringing as a guest so I can make her a placecard. And if you switch gals after I’ve already made the card, then she’s going by that name that night! (I’m only half kidding…)

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