Post # 1
So our RSVP date was this past Friday, and I am shocked by the fact that 30 of our 227 rsvp cards haven’t made it back to us. And that a good 10 of them so far have been no’s that they had no intention of sending back. FH and I have been to 7 weddings over the past two summers and ALWAYS rsvp asap.
Anyone else have any rsvp frustration?
Post # 3
@crr219191: Yes. A people keep saying to me “oh, we are coming but I haven’t sent the card back yet”. To be fair, I think I’ve probably been a late RSVPer I the past, but I’m learning how annoying that is!
Post # 4
I have an unconventional way of RSVPing (call, text, or email me as opposed to sending the card back) because of limited time. We didn’t know we were getting married in August until the middle of June…long story.
However, instead of notifying me, most of FI’s family has been notifying FMIL and she doesn’t tell me about them. I specifically said on the card to let ME know, not anyone else!
Post # 5
I am SO over this rsvp crap. AAARRGHH
Our RSVP date was last week Wednesday and we’re still chasing people down. Seriously?!?
I feel like my head is going to explode.
There are still 17 people we’re not sure about at all!! And another 6 that just won’t tell us anything one way or another.
People clearly do not respect that fact that they’re holding up things like finalizing the seating chart and we still need to see if we’re going to make our minimum. (We’re only 2 away but still..). It’s only 3.5 weeks away, you must know by now!
And now I’m also having to chase people to see if they’re planning to stay at the hotel or not bc the hotel is only holding our block of rooms until tomorrow (Wednesday) before they release them – and they’re selling out quickly. And then there are people who say they’re staying there and then don’t reserve their rooms!!! O_o
Seriously… Head exploding now. ><
Post # 6
@crr2191 my RSVP date was July 19. At that day we still had over 100 people unaccounted for (I don’t remember how many cards that was). As of today I still have not heard from 27. How hard is it to check yes or no and send back a stamped envelope! I’ve reached out to them and if I don’t hear back by next week they are all no. I’m not doing a seating plan so I’m not worried about that.
I got an rsvp in the mail yesterday from a close family friend. It is 10 days after the RSVP deadline and they declined because their niece is getting married the same day. You’re telling me you didn’t know more than 10 days ago she was getting married?
Post # 7
@BulldogBride: omg you’re kidding. People are appalling.
We’re only waiting on 4 cards, but it’s stupidly frustrating.
Post # 8
Our RSVP deadline was July 27.
I reached out to those who’s RSVPs did not get back to us and found out that they did indeed sent them a while back but never made it to our mailbox as they were ‘lost in the mail’…..it happens!
Post # 9
@blushpretty: You sure they weren’t just saying that? That’s probably what I would do if I forgot to send back the card 🙂
Post # 10
@blushpretty: & @kellykellygg: Yea, we had 2 that “got lost in the mail.” Two weeks after the deadline I did receive one of them… turns out it really did get lost in the mail!
I am regretting inviting a “C-lister” (i.e. after the RSVP deadline we extended an invitation to the date of a “B-lister.” They ignored my request for a response for about 10 days until I said I needed to know by the next day, then they suddenly answered. Thanks a lot. What an enormous amount of work and stress for someone who I don’t know and will never see again. Not mad at my mom for suggesting that one…. really. Really not. (I’m lying I totally am!)
Post # 11
@BulldogBride: It sounds like you won’t need to talk to these people face to face but if you do my FI had a good suggestion. Instead of trying to express your frustration, just be super polite.
“It’s such a great time of year to get married! I’m so happy for your niece.”
Post # 12
My uncle FINALLY responded to my message last night that we could count on him “and a plus one TBD.” Um, no. You cannot RSVP past the deadline for yourself AND a person who was not invited. Nowhere on the invitation or RSVP card did it mention anything about a +1.
We’ll get an answer from FI’s cousin tomorrow, and the card is in the mail for another friend. Nothing from his brother yes. SIL has not responded to my email. I told him that he needs to call them this weekend if I don’t get a response because if we do not get an answer, there will be NO seats for them at the reception.