(Closed) RSVP via email… tacky?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is requesting RSVP's via email tacky?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    19 %
    No : (54 votes)
    81 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it’s fine. I’ve been asked to send RSVPs by email for many weddings. It saves on paper and is pretty easy for most people so I don’t see why not.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    As long as everyone on your guest list is tech savvy I think it is a great idea!

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think if it’s a common thing, then no big deal, but if you think you’ll get too much negativity from your guests, you may want to skip it. All our younger guests had no problem with it but all our older ones still decided to call my Mother-In-Law to RSVP….even tho they had MY phone # listed on the invite, too!

    Who knows?! But people have to be generally reciprocating to actually email you about it. At least include a phone # also, just in case.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Just as long as you include postage for the older/traditional folks who may not be as tech savvy or likely to respond through e-mail. 

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it’s fine. You could always make a snailmail RSVP for any grandmothers who might not be tech-savvy enough to do the e-mail.

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I don’t think it is tacky at all… plus it is environmentally friendly 🙂 BUT without the ready-to-be-mailed postcard right in front of them, people are less likely to RSVP. We did email RSVP for my sisters wedding and barely anyone did it 🙁

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we’re doing it via website, email isn’t much different. i would put a phone number on for people who aren’t internet savy. our biggest problem with it is that since it’s such an informal way to rsvp, people don’t seem to take it seriously. we have a lot of people that just tell us verbally that they’re rsvping, which would be ok but that’s a lot for us to remember. and there’s always those people that say, “but i told you 6 months ago (before the invites were out) that i was coming!” i think that because they don’t have to return a card, they don’t have to rsvp because they already told you. that’s just not true.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I think it’s a great idea, as long as you take into account the people you’re inviting who may not be very tech savvy (I know there are people in our group of invitees that would have NO idea how to do this!)

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I dont think it’s tacky & actually most of my friends would probably prefer just doing it online than mailing back something.  I am definitely doing this–but I will also be including my phone # so that people can call and RSVP as well (folks who don’t have internet access–like older aunts).  Our wedding is pretty small however, so I won’t be getting that many phone calls.  Also the RSVPs will go directly into a spreadsheet through the online RSVP thing, so that is less typing and entering for me!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee

    my bestie did it [though did include envelopes – not stamped] for those who weren’t comfortable. it was their preferred method but did make preparations for those who either didn’t have a computer or wanted to do it the old fashioned way. i say go for it!

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think it all depends on the kind of wedding you’re having.  A friend of mine had a really small backyard party where they just happened to get married in the middle.  The e-mail RSVP really seemed to fit.  Another friend had a rather formal affiar.  An e-mail RSVP probably would have seemed slightly out of place.  I’d just make sure to offer another RSVP option in case someone would rather not e-mail.  Ms. Manners says that you should throw out the insert card and write a note of your own to RSVP, so including a response card is by no means a must. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I THINK TIME IS CHANGING AND COMPUTER ARE BECOME PART OF OUR EVERYDAY LIFE… I THINK IS FINE AND BETTER BUT THATS ME

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Just to let you know, I allowed my guests to RSVP by phone, website, email and by mail.  Everyone sent back their RSVP card, only one person did by website.  I invited 130 people.  I was very suprised that people didn’t text or call or emai me instead. I had a lot of people who I know where tech savy but they opted to mail it.  Weird.

     

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My friend did this for her wedding as an option and I didnt think anything tacky about it. I actually loved the idea and it was so convenient for me to just hop on the computer and tell her if im coming or not

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