(Closed) RSVP with reference to "Face Eating Zombies"?!?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 152
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498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the RSVP card is funny. If I were not attending I would probably write in my own check box rather than pick something they suggested because I agree they are kind of snarky. LOL

I think the “and guest” part is super rude. I had a bride send me a wedding invite “and guest” even though my fiance and I owned a house together and had lived together for two years and the bride had met him a bunch of times. I still kind of secretly hold a grudge against her for it.

Post # 153
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honest question for those of you who found the joking reference to a horrible assault/death/disfuguring incident funny … or said something along the lines of “its their wedding, they can do whatever they want”

If one of the options was “I’m not coming because their might be blacks there” was an option, would you say the same thing?  Its their wedding, they can be as offensive as they want?

 

Not trying to be snarky, I’m genuinely curious.

Post # 154
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794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mandypop:  ………really? 

C’mon  now…that’s the comparison you’re making? Are you sure you don’t want to drag the Hitler in here somehow too? =P

Post # 155
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1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@sylvia.riggle:  I think the point she was making was that just because it is their wedding doesn’t mean that they can say whatever they want and people can’t take offense.  That was an extreme example. So yes, people have every right to be offended by a wedding invitation.  The question is if this particular invitation would be offensive, and obviously the Bee is split on that issue. 

Post # 156
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794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Natalieh86:  well i think most of us agree that some people found it offensive and some didn’t–everyone has a different sense of humor-that’s not really the issue

I believe the issue is if it’s ok to be so appalled by a joke on an RSVP that you find crass that you decide that you simply cannot bear to send it back, burst into tears, and question how seriously the couple takes the concept of marriage.

 

Some people, including me, find that to be an extreme reaction. 

If I took offense to the joke I’d be like ‘eh that was cringeworthy’ not OMFG THOSE PEOPLE ARE HEARTLESS MONSTERS!!!!

It’s not as if the joke was targeting a specific race or class of people–unless you consider drug addled maniacs to be a protected minority

Post # 157
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2314 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The B&G were probably trying to make light of a situation that they were frankly embarassed to be a part of (seriously…I feel bad for residents of FL, you guys get a lot of flack!) so instead they went with a joke that could be of poor taste.  I don’t really think it’s deserving of a 4 page thread but here I am commenting on it anyway. For the record, I had completely forgotten about the homeless guy until you brought it up.  *shrug*

And once again, I agree with @sylvia.riggle:

Post # 158
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2160 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

This topic is so interesting… only because of the division of opinion.  I’m somewhere in the middle~ I think it’s a poor choice.  Not offensive.  Not enough that I wouldn’t be able to check a box in reply.  If it was just a simple zombie joke, I’d have smiled and moved on.  The crime reference makes me lose the smile, but I gotta say… I’m pretty surprised at the debate!

Gram’s tears don’t surprise me, though!  My ultra-traditional family would cry too!  Just out of sheer frustration with my “wild” ways… lol

Post # 159
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2314 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

 

 

Post # 160
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1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@WillyNilly:  you left off the last part “without people being offended.” The fact that it’s your wedding doesn’t mean that no one can be offended by any action you take. 

Post # 161
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Natalieh86:  Touche!  That does change the meaning quite a bit. I will change my previous post (I’m a weeeee bit caffeinated and am skimming – apologies).

Post # 162
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1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@WillyNilly:  No worries, I am right there with you on the caffeine at the moment!

Post # 163
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sylvia.riggle:  Read my post again. I’m not “comparing” it to anything.  I’m asking an honest question.  If you can do “whatever you want” (those exact words were used by several posters) because its “your wedding” –  where does one draw the line?

My point is, the OP isnt “wrong” for being offended, because there is not a concrete line by which something is offensive or not.  Its all a matter of perspective. There are plenty of people who find racist jokes hilarious. There are still people out there who use “fag” as a funny name to call someone. And there are people out there who think a man being attacked and disfigured is funny….  and then there are people who find some or all of these things offensive.   Debating whether or not its ACTUALLY offensive is purely a matter of opinion and a very silly thing to argue about. 

Post # 164
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2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Pretty sure making fun of someone being attacked on your wedding invitation is always in bad taste. WTF is wrong with people?

Post # 165
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2360 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mixtapehearts:   Yep. I can’t see the other side at all, actually.

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