(Closed) RSVP Woes

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@metalbride:  what are planning on doing, scrapbooking your reply cards? People are nuts.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

hahaha and write your name in the spot! I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man who filled it out with just “Bridesmaid!!!” thank god she’s the only one w/ that post office & i know her handwritting!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ms.VW:  This why we used a return address label on the back of the RSVP cards. People forget to write their names on the front. Thank goodness FH thought of this.

My mom verbally RSVP for her and my dad because she wanted to “keep the whole invite together”. Whatever mom. This is the day after I told his mom that she is not exempt from sending in her RSVP (in a joking manner). She responded “yeah I do want to eat!”

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

A fellow bee had suggested numbering the backs of the RSVP’s to correspond with each guest (I had a master list)  so that when they came back and had sloppy handwriting or came back BLANK for who was coming(this happened!), I could at least look up the number. It pretty much saved my life in a few instances.

I’ve had some verbal RSVP’s given to my parents. I guess i get it since they are their friends, but it still frustrates me. The envelope was stamped!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@metalbride:  Ive had the exact same problem.  My deadline was last saturday and I’m missing 100 out of 186 RSVPs.  My FIs friends keep calling claiming they lost the cards and several family members haven’t RSVPed.  It really ticks me off the lack of etiquette people have these days

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Agree with all the comments my Future Mother-In-Law informed me that it was likely most of her family wouldn’t RSVP – cause they don’t do that. Mind you I receive formal invites with RSVP dates to things like Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter from FI’s family. So why would you NOT RSVP to a wedding. I totally get what you are saying, I’m sorry no I don’t plan on scrapbooking the RSVPs however, I need to know what people are having for dinner. I like many others numbers my RSVPs which has helped in many an instance when people didn’t fill in their names – however it doesn’t help when someone doesn’t provide the name of their guest (which I need for the placecard!). Totally sympathize – I would tell your Mom to tell anyone who RSVPs to her verbally – that they must also RSVP to you. Otherwise things can get lost in translation (or forgotten entirely!)!!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve gotten zero..my deadline is June 1 but my invites went out months ago beause it’s a Destination Wedding. For some reason, I won’t be surprised if I get no RSVP’s.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Oops-I meant to say what are THEY planning on doing with your reply card (the ones that refuse to return it because it’s too pretty), not you. Obviously you need it. 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel your pain.

I sent my invitations to my Destination Wedding about 3 months ago, and the cut off date is next week.

On the RSVP card it asks them to select a meal preference (beef, fish, veg) so for those people who have “verbally RSVPd” how am I meant to know what to feed them?!

I find the worst offenders are family and close friends because they assume you know they’ll be there so there’s no need to be polite and formally RSVP Yell

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