(Closed) RSVP woes

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t take it personally, I think people just get busy or the invitation gets lost in a pile of mail if they didn’t RSVP right away. I can empathize with you, it is really frustrating. Did you have self-addressed stamped envelopes for all of the guests to RSVP with? My fiance is responsible for calling all of “his” guests/family and I am responsible for getting in contact with mine-this way it won’t be such a burden on one of us.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Don’t stress until you pass the RSVP deadline. I think more will come in just before and a little bit after. Sometimes people just legitimately forget and just need a quick text, email or phone call for them to send back the card or give you a verbal answer!

I’m sure it has ZERO to do with people wanting to go to your wedding. The ones who can’t are usually ones that get back to you with a definitive answer sooner rather than later (or maybe that’s just my experience but either way…) don’t fret!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

People put them off to the side/forget to send them back. It’s not that they don’t want to be there…Fiance “lost” a wedding invite last year- fortunately I saw the bride’s “where are your RSVPs?” post on FB and bugged him about it.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Many people mail them back at the last minute, using the rsvp date as a mail by date. Plus, its a holiday weekend, so there may be some delays in mail or people on vacation.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My deadline is today, and I still have about 25 people that I haven’t heard from.  A lot are our groomsmen because that told my Fiance, “you know I am coming”.  Yeah, we know, but are you bringing a date or not!  Ugh… I am dreading the phone calls!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My brother said, “You know I’m coming!”  I looked at him and said, “I put a freaking stamp on that so YOU WILL put it in the mail.  Besides, I need to know if you’re bringing a date and what the heck you want to eat.”

 

GRRR!  I’m less than a week from mine and i’m missing about 50!

Post # 10
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Oh wait.  I’m only missing 41 now lol.  Got some in the mail today and yesterday!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is what I have found……………. all of the guests who you invite who don’t reply right away or before the RSVP date, or are the ones that you have to chase to get their RSVP and are most likely the ones who won’t be attending your wedding.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Lots of people forget to send them–it’s standard practice to set your RSVP date enough before your final headcount deadlines so that you can call everyone who has not responded to confirm.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

So rude! How do people forget to RSVP to someone’s wedding?! Even if I am not close to the couple, I wouldn’t forget it. Weddings are big events! How can people just forget?!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Because people are human and have other things to think about. Don’t waste your energy taking it personally… but do call them.

Until I planned my own wedding, I had no clue and, to be honest, often RSVPed late. I’d keep thinking “I must send that back…” then suddenly realise the deadline had come. I’d also assume close friends knew I was coming.

People don’t mean to upset or offend. They get distracted, or forget, or don’t get round to it, or think you know they’re coming, or just don’t understand how annoying they’re being.

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