(Closed) RSVP woes, round 2

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I hear ya!! I have had a massive headache for 2 straight days over RSVP crap! People sometimes just plain suck!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m afraid I can’t answer that question because I don’t know.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If I can add mine–we’ve been getting RSVPs too.  By text message.  And it’s making me flat out bitter y’all.  I wrote our address.  I stamped your damn card.  You can’t mail it back to me?  I guess I should be thankful that people are, in fact, RSVPing, but Jesus.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t get it. We’re going through the same thing. I especially love the people who just wrote “And Guest” on their rsvp cards. Really? Does your guest have a name? Or are you just going to show up with whomever’s available that day? Argh! And we’re having “can I bring my three year old, she’ll be really good and quiet and won’t eat anything” issues too…I won’t even go there though, I will get ranty. Hang in there @sweetredthing and @JenuineMulder

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2008

uh oh. I’m so sorry for your pain(s). Unfortunately many people see this as one big party at the expense of others without realizing how sacred and special it is to the couple, how EXPENSIVE it is just to invite them let alone all of the uninvited extras. It’s almost over. You’ll get through it. Just be sure you have your designated person (planner/MOH/someone other than you) call to confirm guests. Especially those who think they will just bring extras because they scratched out the original number and wrote one in on the card. We don’t want anyone to be embarassed the day of the wedding because they have no chair or plate or common courtesy. Laughing

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@quietserenity: OMG don’t you just love that? It’s like ‘where’d your RSVP go?’ Ours were *postcards* Ridiculously easy. We got at least 20 facebook RSVP’s too. I guess at the end of the day it’s just important to have the final count, but seriously, I feel your pain on that too!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I think they figure it’s just ‘one’ more, or ‘one’ more call isn’t a big deal (to ask about adding people).  But, you are getting ALL of these calls, which on top of your already carefully thought out plans… is just sheer lunacy. 😉

Hang in there – the crazy RSVP’s will stop soon and your list will be finalized once and for all! 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am seriously to the point where I’m tired of being Miss Ettiquette in my responses. I REALLY just want to say, “NO, you can’t bring your flavor-of-the-moment f***buddy (who has girlfriend that isn’t YOU) to your FATHER’s and my wedding!” or “No, it’s not ‘just’ one more person – it’s $35+ more!”

And for some reason, a lot of guests seem to think that if they can’t come, they don’t have to send back the card, and we’ll get the hint. To me that says, “I don’t care enough about you to respond,” not “Sorry we can’t make it.” And to that I say, “Then give me my 44 cents back!” – Seriously. I could use it!

I guess I should have gone with “__ Accepts” and “__ Regrets,” instead of just putting “Number Attending___.” But, uh, zero IS a number, folks. 😉

@sweetredthing: I agree wholeheartedly about the drink and honeymoon. I told Fiance the other night that I’m excited to be married to him, but I just want it to be over so I can lie on a ship in the Caribbean with a nice, big, frozen, fruity cocktail in my hand and just chill.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The answer to your question is:

Because people are rude, inconsiderate, ill-mannered assholes.

Once you accept that they WILL invite random strangers, bring uninvited children and RSVP “No” and then text the week before to let you know they’re coming – then you’ll be fine. 🙂

It’s so frustrating that people aren’t more respectful of invitations (and rather think wedding’s are a free-for-all) but unfortunately it just has to be handled with as much grace as possible.

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel your pain. My Fiance aunt and uncle RSVPed a week and a half late, and then wrote in the name of their two children. We emailed them twice, called and left one message. We finally got a hold of them and they say “oh yeah we got your email.” WTF you can’t reply or call us back. And then you say “the kids are really disappointed.” I don’t give a f*** !! Seriously people have no clue!!!!!! To make matters worse I had to  readjust my seating chart because they don’t speak to one of the other aunts and uncles. His aunt also never even rsvped to my shower.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sweetredthing:

I used the same invites from Michaels!!! %40 off

 

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