(Closed) RSVP Woes

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

*hugs*  i’m sorry this hurts you.  I’m hoping for you that you’ll get a big bunch in the next few days. 

I have some family that i’ve not invited and others that i have invited and won’t attend.  I am trying to take a “their loss” attitude about it.  I will instead include friends who are near and dear to me and are sincerely happy and excited to witness me marrying the love of my life.


Post # 4
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@gumby: I am so sorry to hear that.

Do they have reasons for not coming? Is it a long trip for any of these people?

I really hope that you get a lot more yesses in the coming days.

I’m so sorry.

Post # 7
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

🙁  Hopefully you will get a bunch more responses in he next two weeks including a bunch of positive ones.

We have local relatives we didn’t invite and out-of-state/country relatives that were invited but can’t or don’t want to make the trip.  My grandparents and Fiance grandmother can’t make it because travel is too hard on them at their age.  It hurts us that they won’t be there, but there’s nothing we can do about it.  

We knew from the start that a large chunk of our guest list was made up of out-of-town people who might not be able to come. We decided that we would rather have a smaller wedding with the close people who can make the trip than a large wedding with local people we aren’t close to.

Post # 8
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My wedding is tricky too.I have about that number of people who will be out of town guests.

I am giving them over a years notice.I have asked them all if they would like to attend.Most of them said yes while others said they will try.Will be sending out STD’s in Nov or Dec of this year. And 3-4 months before the wedding.

So they had very advanced notice to put my wedding on the calenders!!!I know things happen,but if I hear from them,I dont have the money to come,or I have a birthday party to attend,etc.,I will be kind of mad.

U had over a year to save,told u about my wedding over a year ago before u even found out that there was a birthday party u just got invited to a month ago,etc,etc.

I figure if they really want to come.they will MAKE THE EFFORT.

If u need to save for it,Ive given u over a years notice!U will probably have things coming up during that time,that is why I gave u a years notice!!So u could put my wedding on your calender,so u dont accidentally put something else on your calender.

And of a course there are emergencies that do happen.I understand that.

But dont pull me in circles or use excuses.

If they want to come,they will make the effort.


Post # 9
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

In fact,once we agreed on the date,we started telling everyone.So the STD’s is just another reminder.A reminder that is a magnet that can go on the fridge of everybody we invite.


Post # 11
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

((((HUGS))))  I am learning in the wedding planning process that I can’t control what other’s will do and if it’s any consolation, you know that the people who ARE attending love you and Fiance very much and it’s a special occassion to them.  I know it’s hard to focus ont he positive when things aren’t going the way we want them to, but try to see the good in this situation:)

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